a girl ive been talking to is gonna sleep over at my place this weekend cause us and a bunch of friends are going out to a club for a friends birthday. any tips on how to make a move without looking like an idiot and/or getting rejected?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
how to make a move without getting rejected?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Do you fear looking like an idiot or being rejected?duke104 said:
BlackMack177
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just be straight up and bold with your intentions. but do it tactfully and not obnoxiously and most times girls will not try to bust your balls for trying
do you fear looking dumb or do you fear getting rejected?
because no matter what you do you're risking either one. why not just say fvck it and go for broke?
if more of us guys could do that (including me sometime) then we'd be a lot better off
I respect a person who takes a risk, and i'm sure girls do too. Girls are not bears so really our fear of them as men is unwarranted.
do you fear looking dumb or do you fear getting rejected?
because no matter what you do you're risking either one. why not just say fvck it and go for broke?
if more of us guys could do that (including me sometime) then we'd be a lot better off
I respect a person who takes a risk, and i'm sure girls do too. Girls are not bears so really our fear of them as men is unwarranted.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Look dude, don't apologize for being a man. If she rejects you, TRY AGAIN. If she rejects you again, TRY AGAIN.
Don't make a big deal out of it. There is never any "awkwardness" for being a man.
Is the risk of rejection worth the reward?
And HOLY CRAP she's sleeping over. In the same bed? Dude, I will happily have her over my place instead. I won't be making threads like this, only a LR
Don't make a big deal out of it. There is never any "awkwardness" for being a man.
Is the risk of rejection worth the reward?
And HOLY CRAP she's sleeping over. In the same bed? Dude, I will happily have her over my place instead. I won't be making threads like this, only a LR
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Very true, if she rejects then just be cool and collective. Don't be pissed off and be a ****, don't be sad and be a pvssy. Just be your normal old self and have fun hanging out!bigneil said:
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Pretend to be cold and hug her.