a girl ive been talking to is gonna sleep over at my place this weekend cause us and a bunch of friends are going out to a club for a friends birthday. any tips on how to make a move without looking like an idiot and/or getting rejected?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
how to make a move without getting rejected?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Do you fear looking like an idiot or being rejected?duke104 said:
BlackMack177
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just be straight up and bold with your intentions. but do it tactfully and not obnoxiously and most times girls will not try to bust your balls for trying
do you fear looking dumb or do you fear getting rejected?
because no matter what you do you're risking either one. why not just say fvck it and go for broke?
if more of us guys could do that (including me sometime) then we'd be a lot better off
I respect a person who takes a risk, and i'm sure girls do too. Girls are not bears so really our fear of them as men is unwarranted.
do you fear looking dumb or do you fear getting rejected?
because no matter what you do you're risking either one. why not just say fvck it and go for broke?
if more of us guys could do that (including me sometime) then we'd be a lot better off
I respect a person who takes a risk, and i'm sure girls do too. Girls are not bears so really our fear of them as men is unwarranted.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Look dude, don't apologize for being a man. If she rejects you, TRY AGAIN. If she rejects you again, TRY AGAIN.
Don't make a big deal out of it. There is never any "awkwardness" for being a man.
Is the risk of rejection worth the reward?
And HOLY CRAP she's sleeping over. In the same bed? Dude, I will happily have her over my place instead. I won't be making threads like this, only a LR
Don't make a big deal out of it. There is never any "awkwardness" for being a man.
Is the risk of rejection worth the reward?
And HOLY CRAP she's sleeping over. In the same bed? Dude, I will happily have her over my place instead. I won't be making threads like this, only a LR
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Very true, if she rejects then just be cool and collective. Don't be pissed off and be a ****, don't be sad and be a pvssy. Just be your normal old self and have fun hanging out!bigneil said:
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Pretend to be cold and hug her.