Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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How to keep the power and not lose power?

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I think some of you may have read some struggles in past threads with a relative who for years belittled, put me down, ostracised, manipulate others, bully.

There are some community members, who do not know me and make ignorant comments and may make fun of me, belittle, sarcasm.

I have stopped being there and blocked people for years. With my academics and self e potential, I've proved then wrong.

They do wish to ruin my dignity and make me a scapegoat. Mess me around saying "get him a women".

How to keep and not lose power:

-Never be there
-Keep my distance
-Be away
-Keep well away

-Do not communicate with them
-Do not be in there connections, links, WhatsApp, groups

-Dont think
-Dont care
-Ignore
-Do not acknowledge them

-Be calm
-Be silent

-Block their social media
-Block them completely

-Do not tell them anything
-Silence, calm
-Limit contact with them

Anything else to add?
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You don't "keep power", it's defined by your actions and what you allow.

Nobody who has power walks around thinking about how they need to keep power. If you are worried about that, then you don't have any to begin with.

It would be like asking "how do I become more confident?"

You become more confident by being more confident. There isn't really any other way to do it.
 

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I think some of you may have read some struggles in past threads with a relative who for years belittled, put me down, ostracised, manipulate others, bully.

There are some community members, who do not know me and make ignorant comments and may make fun of me, belittle, sarcasm.

I have stopped being there and blocked people for years. With my academics and self e potential, I've proved then wrong.

They do wish to ruin my dignity and make me a scapegoat. Mess me around saying "get him a women".

How to keep and not lose power:

-Never be there
-Keep my distance
-Be away
-Keep well away

-Do not communicate with them
-Do not be in there connections, links, WhatsApp, groups

-Dont think
-Dont care
-Ignore
-Do not acknowledge them

-Be calm
-Be silent

-Block their social media
-Block them completely

-Do not tell them anything
-Silence, calm
-Limit contact with them

Anything else to add?
I agree with the obstacle being the way, in other words, what is clearly a dread fear of yours can be the path to your power. I will tell you right now, power does not run. So all the evasion and your seclusion is a delusion you have built to go hide in and not face the real world. What about taking some classes and therapy related to social interaction, is it possible as a highly intelligent person you may be neurodivergent?
 

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Nope.
You gain confidence by challenging yourself and conquering your fears. Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, fear of others, fear of yourself. Confidence is born from accomplishments.

Confidence without accomplishments is arrogance.
Not necessarily.

You have to actually believe you can accomplish anything before you actually do it.

And believing that you can do it is confidence.

More importantly it's "self confidence" which is the belief in yourself without needing any external boosters.

Could you imagine where we would be throughout history of all if the people who made groundbreaking new discoveries and technological advancements only did so after they had already succeeded?

We would still be in the stone age because they all would have given up.
 

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There are some community members, who do not know me and make ignorant comments and may make fun of me, belittle, sarcasm
Welcome to humanity, hoss. You can get mentally stuck on the passive aggressive digs folks hurl in your direction. You can also consciously choose to DETACH from such noise, and not let them see you sweat
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Welcome to humanity, hoss. You can get mentally stuck on the passive aggressive digs folks hurl in your direction. You can also consciously choose to DETACH from such noise, and not let them see you sweat
As Arnold say… ignore the naysayers
 
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Not necessarily.

You have to actually believe you can accomplish anything before you actually do it.

And believing that you can do it is confidence.

More importantly it's "self confidence" which is the belief in yourself without needing any external boosters.

Could you imagine where we would be throughout history of all if the people who made groundbreaking new discoveries and technological advancements only did so after they had already succeeded?

We would still be in the stone age because they all would have given up.
Well said
 
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Welcome to humanity, hoss. You can get mentally stuck on the passive aggressive digs folks hurl in your direction. You can also consciously choose to DETACH from such noise, and not let them see you sweat
My uncle always said that's a "you" problem, not a "their".

Meaning, it's affecting me mentally, but these people are oblivious to it all

Ignorance is bliss. So if you can figure out how to be stupid, there's money in it

You'll just always be a shovel man
 

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Confidence comes from success. Success comes from risk or hard work/investment.

Remember the very old movie Karata Kid. We see the perfect path to confidence.

Confidence only comes from success. No short cut available.

The way to get confidence is to become good at something. Nice if something that others think is cool.

Number one reason men fail with women for long or short term, no confidence. Not good/great at anything, due usually to lack of effort to learn to be good at something.

Failure never builds confidence no matter how many times we fail.

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Find and join your local martial arts gym. (boxing, karate, BJJ,..... ,.....,.....). Your confidence will grow with your ability, 100%).
When you know in your mind that you can take them down, they will know it also and you won't have to and the problem will be gone.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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