"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How to keep the power and not lose power?

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I think some of you may have read some struggles in past threads with a relative who for years belittled, put me down, ostracised, manipulate others, bully.

There are some community members, who do not know me and make ignorant comments and may make fun of me, belittle, sarcasm.

I have stopped being there and blocked people for years. With my academics and self e potential, I've proved then wrong.

They do wish to ruin my dignity and make me a scapegoat. Mess me around saying "get him a women".

How to keep and not lose power:

-Never be there
-Keep my distance
-Be away
-Keep well away

-Do not communicate with them
-Do not be in there connections, links, WhatsApp, groups

-Dont think
-Dont care
-Ignore
-Do not acknowledge them

-Be calm
-Be silent

-Block their social media
-Block them completely

-Do not tell them anything
-Silence, calm
-Limit contact with them

Anything else to add?
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You don't "keep power", it's defined by your actions and what you allow.

Nobody who has power walks around thinking about how they need to keep power. If you are worried about that, then you don't have any to begin with.

It would be like asking "how do I become more confident?"

You become more confident by being more confident. There isn't really any other way to do it.
 

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I think some of you may have read some struggles in past threads with a relative who for years belittled, put me down, ostracised, manipulate others, bully.

There are some community members, who do not know me and make ignorant comments and may make fun of me, belittle, sarcasm.

I have stopped being there and blocked people for years. With my academics and self e potential, I've proved then wrong.

They do wish to ruin my dignity and make me a scapegoat. Mess me around saying "get him a women".

How to keep and not lose power:

-Never be there
-Keep my distance
-Be away
-Keep well away

-Do not communicate with them
-Do not be in there connections, links, WhatsApp, groups

-Dont think
-Dont care
-Ignore
-Do not acknowledge them

-Be calm
-Be silent

-Block their social media
-Block them completely

-Do not tell them anything
-Silence, calm
-Limit contact with them

Anything else to add?
I agree with the obstacle being the way, in other words, what is clearly a dread fear of yours can be the path to your power. I will tell you right now, power does not run. So all the evasion and your seclusion is a delusion you have built to go hide in and not face the real world. What about taking some classes and therapy related to social interaction, is it possible as a highly intelligent person you may be neurodivergent?
 

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Nope.
You gain confidence by challenging yourself and conquering your fears. Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, fear of others, fear of yourself. Confidence is born from accomplishments.

Confidence without accomplishments is arrogance.
Not necessarily.

You have to actually believe you can accomplish anything before you actually do it.

And believing that you can do it is confidence.

More importantly it's "self confidence" which is the belief in yourself without needing any external boosters.

Could you imagine where we would be throughout history of all if the people who made groundbreaking new discoveries and technological advancements only did so after they had already succeeded?

We would still be in the stone age because they all would have given up.
 

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There are some community members, who do not know me and make ignorant comments and may make fun of me, belittle, sarcasm
Welcome to humanity, hoss. You can get mentally stuck on the passive aggressive digs folks hurl in your direction. You can also consciously choose to DETACH from such noise, and not let them see you sweat
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Welcome to humanity, hoss. You can get mentally stuck on the passive aggressive digs folks hurl in your direction. You can also consciously choose to DETACH from such noise, and not let them see you sweat
As Arnold say… ignore the naysayers
 
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Not necessarily.

You have to actually believe you can accomplish anything before you actually do it.

And believing that you can do it is confidence.

More importantly it's "self confidence" which is the belief in yourself without needing any external boosters.

Could you imagine where we would be throughout history of all if the people who made groundbreaking new discoveries and technological advancements only did so after they had already succeeded?

We would still be in the stone age because they all would have given up.
Well said
 
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Welcome to humanity, hoss. You can get mentally stuck on the passive aggressive digs folks hurl in your direction. You can also consciously choose to DETACH from such noise, and not let them see you sweat
My uncle always said that's a "you" problem, not a "their".

Meaning, it's affecting me mentally, but these people are oblivious to it all

Ignorance is bliss. So if you can figure out how to be stupid, there's money in it

You'll just always be a shovel man
 

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Confidence comes from success. Success comes from risk or hard work/investment.

Remember the very old movie Karata Kid. We see the perfect path to confidence.

Confidence only comes from success. No short cut available.

The way to get confidence is to become good at something. Nice if something that others think is cool.

Number one reason men fail with women for long or short term, no confidence. Not good/great at anything, due usually to lack of effort to learn to be good at something.

Failure never builds confidence no matter how many times we fail.

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Find and join your local martial arts gym. (boxing, karate, BJJ,..... ,.....,.....). Your confidence will grow with your ability, 100%).
When you know in your mind that you can take them down, they will know it also and you won't have to and the problem will be gone.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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