"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How to keep interest

Bgarrido

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What's up guys, I've been spinning a couple of plates but to be perfectly honest there's only one that I actually care about and I was wondering if someone could give me some tips about the situation.

Basically I went to SAT prep with this girl all summer and we talked a lot, after the class was over didn't really talk much but bumped into her last night at a party and she was really happy to see me. After the party hit her up on fb, I rebuilt that rapport and number closed. Now she's really nerdy so I told her we should hang out but she said she couldn't till after AP tests are over with, that's like a month from now and since we go to different high schools i don't know how to keep the interest level up without face to face contact and without texting/fbing her often so much as to seem annoying or clingy. Thoughts??
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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NorwegianDJ

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BPH said:
I created the thread Ask Me Questions to centralize stuff like this and de-clutter the high school forum. Therefore I will not answer these types of questions by searching for them.
Perhaps someone just wants an array of opinions on their situation.

I think APs are around 15th of May? I'd pursue the date further, then if that doesnt work out, I'd leave the whole thing for after APs.
 

Jack Wealthy

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Don't bother trying to get her to hang out during AP, from what I understand of American academics it's an important thing. Also don't bother trying to keep interest up during texting because that isn't what it's for. Text her something like "No worries, we'll do something in four weeks then.
 

alxrose04

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It's kinda tough to keep up the high level of attraction over that amount of time, especially without face to face contact. You should definitely keep in contact with her over that time just so you don't fall into the background. As soon as AP's are over, then you kick it up a notch and push for more face to face meetings.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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