"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How to keep interest

Bgarrido

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What's up guys, I've been spinning a couple of plates but to be perfectly honest there's only one that I actually care about and I was wondering if someone could give me some tips about the situation.

Basically I went to SAT prep with this girl all summer and we talked a lot, after the class was over didn't really talk much but bumped into her last night at a party and she was really happy to see me. After the party hit her up on fb, I rebuilt that rapport and number closed. Now she's really nerdy so I told her we should hang out but she said she couldn't till after AP tests are over with, that's like a month from now and since we go to different high schools i don't know how to keep the interest level up without face to face contact and without texting/fbing her often so much as to seem annoying or clingy. Thoughts??
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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NorwegianDJ

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BPH said:
I created the thread Ask Me Questions to centralize stuff like this and de-clutter the high school forum. Therefore I will not answer these types of questions by searching for them.
Perhaps someone just wants an array of opinions on their situation.

I think APs are around 15th of May? I'd pursue the date further, then if that doesnt work out, I'd leave the whole thing for after APs.
 

Jack Wealthy

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Don't bother trying to get her to hang out during AP, from what I understand of American academics it's an important thing. Also don't bother trying to keep interest up during texting because that isn't what it's for. Text her something like "No worries, we'll do something in four weeks then.
 

alxrose04

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It's kinda tough to keep up the high level of attraction over that amount of time, especially without face to face contact. You should definitely keep in contact with her over that time just so you don't fall into the background. As soon as AP's are over, then you kick it up a notch and push for more face to face meetings.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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