i went to a party last night and had like one positive response (both body language and verbal wise) out of all of the women there. i was pretty drunk (but not too drunk), just having fun, relaxing, teasing some people here and there, dancing a little, etc. and yet it's like i don't exist there. not that i want attention from every person but it's like i can never get positive responses from women even when i am just intoxicated and not giving a damn about anything. i even practiced some kino too on a couple of girls but it's like they continue to either try to brush you off in a subtle way or just be so shy around me. i am a pretty good looking guy too. maybe not all that tall, but muscular. maybe it has to do with social proof? or not being quite sexual enough to women? not really showing the right body language? i don't know.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
how to just 'be' more attractive to women at parties.
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
DJHoolahoop
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by approaching people man. by being interesting and interested. start introducing yourself to others and get to know them, take a break to get to do the same thing with others there. girls will see you as someone who has a high social status when it looks like you know all those people when in fact you're getting to know them. Both are attractive and possibly more so as she gets to see that you have no problems approaching people.
try not to drink at parties unless your plan is to not get any. then by all means, down the hatch!
try not to drink at parties unless your plan is to not get any. then by all means, down the hatch!
Yea man, you need a personality, engaging stories that don't offend anyone directly, interesting things to talk about and an aura of confidence. People will flock to hear what you have to say. Walking around flexing your muscles might work if you're at a party of body-builders but otherwise, you'll need to use your brain and have fun and interesting things to say.
i do have a personality and i have my own array of academic/other interests to attend to in my own spare time. in fact i talked with one guy about philosophy for a while and i loved it. then talked about one of my classes since a girl and i were both in there. so thank you for making assumptions.
well don't ask us to critique what you're doing wrong at parties. We've never met you. All we can do is offer suggestions on what you could be doing wrong. I apologize if my comment was a little harsh, but its true. If you have a great personality, nothing else matters.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Boschy
Senior Don Juan
At least you're getting out there. Treat it like a learning experience and refine your habits for next time. Women are natural experts at reading body language. Even mildly drunk people stand out a mile, let alone what they say or smell like. (My eyes turn into road maps when I'm into it, so it's impossible to hide from bouncers and chicks alike.) So the women at that party will be thinking, "Uh-huh. You're bold and cracking on to me only because you've been drinking. It's not genuine confidence, so I'm not going to respond."
Thanks for the advice everyone. I guess I need to lay off the alcohol and try to develop some natural confidence. Obviously I don't seem to be giving that off to people anywhere I go. I am confident with my studies, my career, my looks, etc. but I guess there's a whole different kind of confidence people look for.
Distant Light
Master Don Juan
Social proof is one of the best things to seem attractive in parties, like that guy said go an just talk to people as you go around working the groups all the other girls will notice you and you will be getting social proofed as girls here the girls around you laughing. Always great to leave a party with a girl on your arm just so you can be social proofed around the whole venue.
El MonoLoco
Master Don Juan
hhmmmmmm.......
I wonder what you need to be more attractive at the grocery store??
:crackup:
what a silly post...
I wonder what you need to be more attractive at the grocery store??
:crackup:
what a silly post...
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.