"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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How to help looking pale?

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Go to a tanning salon. I do and it's made a huge difference in my appearance.

Start off by going every 2 days for a month. After that you can just go once or twice a week to maintain your tan.
 

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If your embarrased about a tanning salon , you get get a tank top and shorts and do stuff like basketball , jogging , bike riding , walking somewhere or you can go to a outdoor swimming pool alot.
 

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Also, think about everyday things you do inside... can you do it outside? If you're reading a book, do it outside, if you're sorting some washing out, find some way of doing it in the back garden. Are you on the phone? if it's cordless/cell phone take it outside. In a pub? take the drink outside and chillout there..

Watch out for the stripes of death though - watch lines and sun-glass lines! *speaks from experience*
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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For a alternative, use some sunless tanning stuff. Personally I dont like the risk of skin cancer (it runs in my family) and the stuff I have looks completly natural. I think its coppertone endless summer. Smells weird but works really well.

One this is agreed, a tan looks good.
 

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I go to a tanning salon too. It was quite embarrassing at first, but I realised a lot of guys use them these days.

Of course, you have to be aware of the dangers of skin cancer and premature ageing, but just be sensible about it. If you get burned, you're overdoing it.

But on the whole it gives me a MASSIVE boost in confidence, improves my complexion and gives me a lot more energy.

Oh and you get to see a lot of hot ladies at tanning salons. :)
 

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I tan. I love it. It's relaxing, I look great. If you're gonna not tan, do it because of the cancer, not because of the shame.
 

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Re: Re: How to help looking pale?

Originally posted by Smooth as Anything
Hot damn, that was the dumbest question I've ever read.
LOL.


Hey if you are going to get tan from sunlight you may get it faster near water or snow since it partly reflects the sunrays and you get more sunshine on you.

Heh, I was snowboarding like 4 days on easter couple of years ago and the sun was shining all day long every day.. There was a funny tan line from a skicap on my face afterwards. I believe I wouldn't got that tan without snow reflecting the light.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Re: Re: How to help looking pale?

Originally posted by Smooth as Anything
Hot damn, that was the dumbest question I've ever read.
uh, no it isn't

1. you can go out in the sun if you want to get a tan
2. you can look healthier another way by improving your fitness, drinking lots of water, breathing properly and eating well.
 

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Re: Re: How to help looking pale?

Originally posted by Smooth as Anything
Hot damn, that was the dumbest question I've ever read.
actually no: there are people (like me) who simply cannot get a tan no matter how much exposure to sunlight I get. It's simply genetics. Nothing you can do about it.

except this:
* to look beter you could bleach your hair. Now you have a dark-pale combination which enhances the paleness of you skin. Like those Goth types do ;)
* also: only wear colors that suit pale skin.

grtz,
DC
 
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