RandomGuy22
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
How to help looking pale?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
taqueso
Don Juan
Umm... Go out in the sun?
Shiftkey
Master Don Juan
Go to a tanning salon. I do and it's made a huge difference in my appearance.
Start off by going every 2 days for a month. After that you can just go once or twice a week to maintain your tan.
Start off by going every 2 days for a month. After that you can just go once or twice a week to maintain your tan.
DJBen
Master Don Juan
Also, think about everyday things you do inside... can you do it outside? If you're reading a book, do it outside, if you're sorting some washing out, find some way of doing it in the back garden. Are you on the phone? if it's cordless/cell phone take it outside. In a pub? take the drink outside and chillout there..
Watch out for the stripes of death though - watch lines and sun-glass lines! *speaks from experience*
Watch out for the stripes of death though - watch lines and sun-glass lines! *speaks from experience*
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Heizen
Senior Don Juan
For a alternative, use some sunless tanning stuff. Personally I dont like the risk of skin cancer (it runs in my family) and the stuff I have looks completly natural. I think its coppertone endless summer. Smells weird but works really well.
One this is agreed, a tan looks good.
One this is agreed, a tan looks good.
I go to a tanning salon too. It was quite embarrassing at first, but I realised a lot of guys use them these days.
Of course, you have to be aware of the dangers of skin cancer and premature ageing, but just be sensible about it. If you get burned, you're overdoing it.
But on the whole it gives me a MASSIVE boost in confidence, improves my complexion and gives me a lot more energy.
Oh and you get to see a lot of hot ladies at tanning salons.
Of course, you have to be aware of the dangers of skin cancer and premature ageing, but just be sensible about it. If you get burned, you're overdoing it.
But on the whole it gives me a MASSIVE boost in confidence, improves my complexion and gives me a lot more energy.
Oh and you get to see a lot of hot ladies at tanning salons.
Smooth as Anything
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Hot damn, that was the dumbest question I've ever read.
Re: Re: How to help looking pale?
Hey if you are going to get tan from sunlight you may get it faster near water or snow since it partly reflects the sunrays and you get more sunshine on you.
Heh, I was snowboarding like 4 days on easter couple of years ago and the sun was shining all day long every day.. There was a funny tan line from a skicap on my face afterwards. I believe I wouldn't got that tan without snow reflecting the light.
LOL.
Hey if you are going to get tan from sunlight you may get it faster near water or snow since it partly reflects the sunrays and you get more sunshine on you.
Heh, I was snowboarding like 4 days on easter couple of years ago and the sun was shining all day long every day.. There was a funny tan line from a skicap on my face afterwards. I believe I wouldn't got that tan without snow reflecting the light.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Re: Re: How to help looking pale?
1. you can go out in the sun if you want to get a tan
2. you can look healthier another way by improving your fitness, drinking lots of water, breathing properly and eating well.
uh, no it isn't
1. you can go out in the sun if you want to get a tan
2. you can look healthier another way by improving your fitness, drinking lots of water, breathing properly and eating well.
Re: Re: How to help looking pale?
except this:
* to look beter you could bleach your hair. Now you have a dark-pale combination which enhances the paleness of you skin. Like those Goth types do
* also: only wear colors that suit pale skin.
grtz,
DC
actually no: there are people (like me) who simply cannot get a tan no matter how much exposure to sunlight I get. It's simply genetics. Nothing you can do about it.
except this:
* to look beter you could bleach your hair. Now you have a dark-pale combination which enhances the paleness of you skin. Like those Goth types do
* also: only wear colors that suit pale skin.
grtz,
DC