"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How to handle Valentines Day?
- Thread starter Kbish828
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
TheException
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You dont. If shes not your girlfriend...dont even bring it up.Kbish828 said:
SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
Actually a pretty good ideasamspade said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
And I think cards are as dumb as anyone else does. But it represents an issue that took me a long time to learn in regard to women - the difference between being right and getting laid. There are countless things that you can say to women that are 100% factually correct, but yet will still drive them away. Yes, cards are dumb, and yes, v-day is dumb. These are correct statements, but they're not going to help you get laid.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
If this makes you feel bad or like an aṣṣhole, do something small for her. Either one won't be detrimental to your relationship. Just choose wisely.
Starfvcks 64
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I traded it back to Gamestop a month later because it wasn't that fun, and ever since then I haven't seen a reason to celebrate V-day.
Have a dinner, maybe see a movie, or do an action date, then get laid. That's all you really need to do, and since you've been dating for two months, it's appropriate to go out on a date. I've gone out with two girls that weren't my girlfriend's on V day and had sex with both of them. Girls get lonely on V Day and will have sex with you if you make it a good night. Don't force giving any gifts or making it out to be too much. That won't go over too well. People make too much out of Valentine's Day making you feel like you have to buy jewlery or expensive presents, it's just an observance. As long as you're spending it with a person you like, then that's all you really need to do.
Some of you say it's only for girlfriend's, that's not true, anybody can have a valentine and go out and have fun. Some of these sh1tty girlfriends that you write about don't even deserve a Valentine's day.
Why would you pass up an opportunity to keep it going well? Nothing wrong with a bit of romance with a girl you've already invested some time in.Kbish828 said:
Just organise a picnic (roast chicken, smoked salmon, crackers, brie, bottle of wine... that kind of stuff) and head over to a nice beach/lake/river foreshore and throw down a blanket.
No need for a gift, but considering you've only been dating for a couple of months, you might want to ask her if she wants to do something with you on Valentines. You might be the only guy she's hanging out with, or you could just be one of her plates. Best to ask.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
backseatjuan
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It's perfectly fine to gift women and men from time to time. Make them feel nice. It won't go unnoticed.
If you really like her, give a gift and plan a nice date, make her feel like the one.
Heck, in my country we sometimes gift an iphone, and sometimes a car. Just because.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m1PH6Ki5Zdo
**** America.
rascal99v
Senior Don Juan
TheException said:
El Payaso said:
Lame and even more Lame.
You're dating her right? Why would you not take her out? This could be your potential girlfriend right here. Dude, go out with her and set something up. Nothing too fancy, but have a night out with her. Avoiding the whole day would be stupid.
Some of this phony "alpha mentality" is going a little bit too far :yes:
JohnChops
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i agree, take her out, have a good time. fvck what these other dudes say, half of them dont get laid anyway.rascal99v said:
If you can cook, then you cook her a nice dinner. (If you can't cook then order some kick a$$ chinese) Have it with some wine and candles. After dinner cuddle up with her on the couch and put on a movie. You wont get past the first fifteen minutes and you will be banging.
TheCleanPleb
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As long as you're not that guy that goes out and buys her expensive jewelry and pays for an expensive ass meal.Kbish828 said:
What I'm doing with my friend is getting some movies from redbox, something to cook for dinner, cookie mix and bake cookies WITH her(or I might make her do it, whatever).
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
