"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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how to get this girl!

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I have my eye on a girl who works in the shop accross from mine in the shopping mall. She is hot, but Ive never actually spoken to her, but she always looks over towards my shop and I've decided now that I have to ask this girl out but its finding the right time or excuse to talk to her.

I feel that I will have to build up some kind of rapport with her first, rather than just jump straight in and ask her out, but I've no clear idea of how to make sure that I'm successful, any ideas to kick me off?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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nw1512

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You dont need an excuse to talk to her,

If you like her, and want to get to know her, say to her.

"Hey i'm Dave111, Ive noticed you from across the street and wanted to know are you single"

That will kickstart the rapport your looking for and will stop you from wasting your mental energy creating situations to meet her in.
 

DJ_Dork

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you're in a good situation.. the shopping mall. ask her when's her next break - take advantage of that time slot to have lunch/coffee and walk around the mall (even though she knows the place.) consider it a mini-date, don't worry about spending just 30 min. GET HER NUMBER at the end of it.
 

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What he and dementia said ^^^.


Basicly, you needn't have an excuse to talk to her. If you are attracted to her, THAT is enough of an excuse.

I wouldn't ask her if she's single however. Just assume and you'll be fine.

Assume that she is interested (It's easier to carry out any type of move if you assume that she is already interested rather than she is disgusted by you). If she isn't, she'll let you know. So just get that number. That mini-date thing is great.

GL
 

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Originally posted by dementia
funny story.

A friend of mine was in the same situation. The HB was a hairdresser and every chick in the place was HB8 or above. He claimed they also look at eachother from his shop to theirs. On valentines day he goes over with a rose, gives it to her, and says "Happy valentines day... Do u wanna go do somethin?"... She said "I have a boyfriend".... Then he walked out... and the other chicks where all like "awww" and totally "Jaw on floor"

Later he was leaving work and the other HB's from the shop saw him and approached him and said "That was so cool and brave of u to do, dont let it put u down and just keep doin what u do!!!"

Proof, that chicks respect guys with balls.... And if that aint proof enough, he boned 2 of them that same night.... at once :cool:

My advice. If ur gonna do it, and there is other HB's in the shop make sure they see it hahah

Good Luck!
awesome story
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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