"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How to get rid of embarrassment...instantly!!

legolas

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This is a quick and simple technique to get rid of embarrassment instantly the moment you start feeling it.

Step 1.
Focus on the task at hand (like approaching the girl or whatever) and block out the world. They don't matter right now.

Step 2.
Say to yourself: "Whatever happens this is going to make a hell of a story. In fact I can't wait to do this so I can call up my friend and tell him how it all went down"

Step 3.
Follow through with your promise. As soon as you're done doing whatever, call up one of your friends and tell them exactly what happened, no matter how sh*tty or embarrassing it was. Make sure you make fun of yourself and laugh at your story especially if you f*cked up and embarrassed yourself.

I guarantee that by the second or third time you use this technique, all your embarrassment will be gone.

--Legolas
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ollie

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legolas said:
Step 2.
Say to yourself: "Whatever happens this is going to make a hell of a story. In fact I can't wait to do this so I can call up my friend and tell him how it all went down"
--Legolas
haha I like this. It's perfect.
 

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sooo true, im known among my friends as the guy that always fails and has the most retarded stories.

my friends used to blackmail me into approaching girls, i guess its helped alot.

sometimes i pronounced my own name wrong because i stuttered so much or i would even forget to give my name.

i would have all these dialogues planned out and rehearsed and they have never went 100% as planned. even now.

i wing it half the time now.

good memories.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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i was always the really shy type around girls i liked or specific ones that people wanted me to approach and i would never do it. I had no problem with ones that i knew were interested in me even if i didn't know them. My friends would then call me out with stuff like if i talk to this chick u gotta talk to that one, and as a bro....i couldn't leave them hanging and i always approached even though more than half the time it went bad. They would also blackmail me into approaching girls i liked, if i didn't do it myself they would go up to them and say the dumbest things about it. it happened once and i never let it happen again. i find it all a big game and a thrilling one at that so i never really give up.
 
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