"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How to get out of thought / attitude of "chasing"?

Spaz

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Coming of age I had my Dad almost challenge me...'you're going to have guys lined up out the door' and 'you'd make a good wife someday to a man'

Mixed messages, lmao
Femininity is many many things but a big part of it is manipulation, smoke and mirrors.

What is seen is actually all an illusion, part of the reason why women are so competitive to other women is because if one is successful, she'd have a man under her tiny palm whilst he is completely oblivious to it, thinking he's the man who is in charge and the other woman relegated to obscurity.

It's a high stakes game and that's why it's vicious.

Yet at the same time, if a man is easily controlled then he is of little value, because it displays that he is a man that isn't actually a man but a mere boy.

And a boy would tremble in fear and might cower or worse, run off during a storm.

Consider urself to be lucky, you gals have an inbuilt mechanism to weed out the weak and seek the strong.

Just imagine u r carrying on a weak man's DNA and passing it off to ur offsprings...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Would somebody PLEASE sticky the above post?

I (as a woman) am constantly jumping up and down around here trying to get men to understand that the best/prettiest/hottest/most high value women are NOT going to come running after a man. They are NOT going to initiate. These women want a MAN and if guys expect them to take the man’s role? Poof. They vanish thinking you’re a wishy washy wimp and they move on fast without wasting time.
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But as a man, if you have your stuff together, and are confident , and go for what you want you WILL have women initiating and approaching. Usually they will be below your potential, but every now and then, a quality woman will put herself in your orbit. It is up to you to recognize that.
 

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But as a man, if you have your stuff together, and are confident , and go for what you want you WILL have women initiating and approaching. Usually they will be below your potential, but every now and then, a quality woman will put herself in your orbit. It is up to you to recognize that.
Correct. 100%. However this still isn’t a woman chasing a man. It’s her pausing to allow him opportunity IF he isn’t clueless.
 
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