"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to get out of the LJBF zone?!?!!?

surfdog

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hey guys
I am aware of the fact that once you get into 'the zone' you usually stay in there..but I want to know if there are ANY way i can try and get out of it and maybe start over?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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thatguyjamalx

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Sorry to say man, but your screwed, it's gonna take a miracle or 3 to get you out of the zone.

Not to worry though, just game her friends. and make sure she hears about it.
 

dav22

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It's possible but by the time you've done all the steps to get out you'll probably find you're not still interested in her.
 

WesCottII

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Why would you want to? Women put you there because they think it would work. Don't kid yourself, it wouldn't.

There are plenty of women who arn't your friend. Go after one of them.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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dav22

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Again, like i said.. it is possible, ignore these guys as i've managed to do it myself. Ganji games is a good start. If you want any specific advice send me a PM and i'll try to help.
 

SickAgain

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My advice is stop seeing/talking to that person for a few years. Then reacquaint yourself with them when your DJ skills are up to par. Then you won't be a friend anymore, she'll probably see you in a different light. It does happen.
 

young_gun

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Did you use kino / touch on her? In my experience, that's what makes the biggest difference.
 
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