"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to get my g/f to trust me again?! :(

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How can I get my girlfriend to trust me again, she asks me how I can get her to trust me but I dont know what to say?!? this is what she said :(

How can I love you so much when I can't trust you?
What can I do? I guess there is a problem with you being my best
friend and the person that I love the most because I know that you
can't answer half of my questions.

Im lost and I really want to stay with this girl and have her trust me again, I really messed up and was talking to other girls and I shouldnt have been, so what can I do??! Please help :(
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What?? Don't we make reading the Bible mandatory reading before posts?

You were TALKING to other women? And she got upset? Next her and get with these 'other women'!
 
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No :( I really want this girl, she is seriously the most beautiful person ever to me and I really want to marry this chick man :( I want her back, but I dont know how I can tell her how to trust me again :(
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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What draws you to insecure women and why do you waste time dating them if you want to sarge other women?
 
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I just really messed up man :( I wasnt thinking at all when I did it and im trying to think of waht to tell her, or to get her to trust me again so we can get back together :(
 
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Buddy, you're not ready for a relationship let alone marriage, not until you become a man. Read the bible!!
 
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Read the bible!

Originally posted by PeeGee
What?? Don't we make reading the Bible mandatory reading before posts?

You were TALKING to other women? And she got upset? Next her and get with these 'other women'!
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I agree...
 
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And by being a man I believe life-trainee means that instead of coming here and saying...

"What do I do! I think I messed up my relationshp by displeasing my women, I'm so sad, what do I do!" Like a pvssy whipped puppy....

It's harsh but that's the vibe I get from you.

Right when she said that to you, the splt second after, you would have... in a calm and straitforward voice, said something like...

“Being with you doesn’t mean I’m cut off from communicating with the opposite sex, I wouldn’t want to limit _your_ life if you met an interesting guy somewhere and just wanted to have a conversation with him."

And no matter what she said after that, no matter what, you stuck to that belief, because you know sacraficing it...her aside... would make you less happy and less of a man.

You accomplish a few things here. You put your foot down, you make it her problem instead of yours, and you present the idea that talking to other people doesn't necessarily imply sexual interest.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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