You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Zarky said:Summary: Looks and money are the only things that matter. So if you're not hunky and rich then concentrate only on going to the gym and making money. If you are buff and rich you will have no trouble getting and keeping women.
I liken the above theory, which is very common, to the theory among women that the blonder her hair and the bigger her t*ts, the more likely a woman is to attract a man. I call it the man's version of the "Big Tittied Blonde" theory: the only things that attract women are looks and money, and the only things that attract men are boobs and blondes.
Can't say my experiences agree with the theory. But, if that's the way you want your world to work, then be my guest.
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You would be surprised with the amount of racism that is out there. In real life people keep their racism to themselves for fear of harm. On the internet, everyone is a tough guy,Zarky said:Summary: Looks and money are the only things that matter. So if you're not hunky and rich then concentrate only on going to the gym and making money. If you are buff and rich you will have no trouble getting and keeping women.
I liken the above theory, which is very common, to the theory among women that the blonder her hair and the bigger her t*ts, the more likely a woman is to attract a man. I call it the man's version of the "Big Tittied Blonde" theory: the only things that attract women are looks and money, and the only things that attract men are boobs and blondes.
Can't say my experiences agree with the theory. But, if that's the way you want your world to work, then be my guest.
EDIT: Annnd the uploader has set it so he must approve all comments before they're posted, which indicates that he knows he'll receive a lot of comments calling him out on his BS![]()
I agree. You need need combine looks/money with confidence aka game.Alle_Gory said:Looks and money by themselves are useless. It's the effect they have on the person (and to other people's perceptions) that's significant.
For example, money in the bank makes you confident. Why? Because you don't give a f*ck. You get fired? No big deal because you have money in the bank. Car breaks down? No sweat, you've got it covered. Need to go on vacation and relax? That's what money's for.
Looks can have a similar affect as well. Skills have a similar effect. You've got the skills and knowledge to handle whatever comes your way? Bam! Instant confidence.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.