"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How to get in-state??

Magnatolia

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Hi all,

Read a post about being in-state so basically everything is easy and smooth. What exactly is in-state and how do I achieve this, or at least what can I do to head towards being in-state?

I actually find that I am usually in-state at things like music festivals. The last one I made about 8 male friends that I hung out with listening to the music. And danced with several women - 1 or 2 of them actually prodded me at one point because I stopped dancing. And a few others chatted to me.

But in any other situation, even nightclubs and pubs, I'm a shocker. I just can't get in-state.

All advice is appreciated.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I just feed them, and when I feel their vulnerability I get in them, I don't lie and I definately NEVER make ANY male friends, I just already realize and know that when it comes to a girl, another mutha****kin penis won't help my situation.
 

Grizou

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If it was not for some very good guy friends I met recently, I would have never been able to get it on with one of the hottest women I have met so far... but that is just my piece of cake! In this sense, if you are good with meeting guy friends you should not bother, because friends always know other interesting people.

On the question of how to get in state? I'll leave that to the "pros" on here, I think you should just go out for the fun of it and not with the overall ambition of hooking up with 10 girls a night. Many people will probably tell you, you should go for as many approaches as possible. That is true if you wanna overcome approach anxiety. If you just want to get in state, go to parties because you like parties, go to pubs with friends because you like it. It will make you feel more comfortable and "at home", eventually you start to own the place and getting to know some nice women will come as a very nice sideeffect I reckon.
 

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For me the best way to get in state is to start having fun right away. Don't linger around at the beguinning. For example last night bar hopping I approached the first person I saw as I entered any bar. It doesn't matter who it is. By the 3rd approach I was feeling like God. Also, getting a rejection out of the way will make you feel great. Like going up to the bitc*iest group of girls and asking them if they want to be part of your orgy.
 

AKA FLEX

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r0cky said:
For me the best way to get in state is to start having fun right away. Don't linger around at the beguinning. For example last night bar hopping I approached the first person I saw as I entered any bar. It doesn't matter who it is. By the 3rd approach I was feeling like God. Also, getting a rejection out of the way will make you feel great. Like going up to the bitc*iest group of girls and asking them if they want to be part of your orgy.
This is good advice here. When I go out on the town, there is a high correlation between getting rejected at the beginning of the night and getting laid at the end of the night.

Once you're in the mindset that you can approach any chick and laugh off rejection, things start to fall into place quickly.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Poonani Maker

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Working VERY hard usually gets me in state for the weekend. I know I've paid my dues. But if I'm not working and I'm Really hard up for jolting myself into state, I'll watch a movie that makes me Respond to it emotionally (usually love). I know it sounds corny, but you can't go wrong with love. I like to be loving to everyone, and if a woman wants to return that love and more then ok. No guys please.
 
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