ok so im thiiiiiis close to getting out of ljbf with this chick, im doin everything right, but there is one problem. she has been cheated on by most of her boyfriends and she cleary has alot of trouble trusting guys. does anyone know what i can do to let her know she can really trust me?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
how to get her over her trust issues?
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cactus3178
Senior Don Juan
All you can do is let her know that not all guys cheat and that trust is important to you. Trust takes time to build-just don't screw up.
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
Yeah bro I'm kinda in the same boat as you. Remember that your need to make her feel emotionally connected to you. So rather than plead your case to her, like a desperate soul, just take the time to SHOW HER, that you care and that she should't worry about you cheating. I see it so much on this site, where guys beg and plead their case to girls and all that does is turn them off more or make insecure girls worse.
Like I said once you've got her emotionally connected to you, she'll open up and trust you.
PIMP
Like I said once you've got her emotionally connected to you, she'll open up and trust you.
PIMP
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
biker_gixxer
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Something else you may want to remember this that girls LOVE drama. This may be a way for her to keep your attention by keeping the issue burning. Maybe I'm wrong, who knows, but it's def. something I would think about.
This is the way I see it...
If she has trust issues, then that's 'her' problem, those are her demons to battle, not yours. By going out of you way to prove your not 'that' guy, your giving her control of the situation and yourself.
I would say
"this conversation is getting old and i'm bored with it, let me know when you have your **** together".
This is the way I see it...
If she has trust issues, then that's 'her' problem, those are her demons to battle, not yours. By going out of you way to prove your not 'that' guy, your giving her control of the situation and yourself.
I would say
"this conversation is getting old and i'm bored with it, let me know when you have your **** together".
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
The best you can do for anyone is inspire them to make the change for themselves. You will never be able to make anyone change and make it stick without the person wanting to do it for themselves and not only for you. If she doesn't want to change, why should she do what you say?
squirrels
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OK, stop right there.
1) How long have you been "LJBF" with this chick?
2) In what way has she indicated her trust issues to you? Be specific.
The reason I'm asking these questions is because I get the impression that you're nowhere CLOSE to being "out of LJBF" and that she's trying not to hurt your feelings by acting like you have a chance and she's using her "trust issues" as an excuse not to date you.
If that's not the case, you're going to have to be more specific.