"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How to get female friends in a new city

skinnyguy

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Yes, that's right. I'm trying to get friendzoned. The new city that I live in has a lot to offer and I really want female (and male) friends to make a HUGE social circle.

The best way for me to meet quality women is through social circle. Tinder doesn't work for me, neither does speed dating or cold approach. When I'm out with cool people, women practically fall in my lap and often they are super duper high quality. Because of my social proof, they have already screened me and thus trust me. Getting dates with them is cake.

My new place is sick - I have access to multiple pools, BBQ area, etc and my place is a total bachelor pad. I want to have lots of friends over and I'm wondering what's the best way for me to form this circle. Ideas? Going to my first meetup event tomorrow.

For the first couple months, I could care less if I get dates. But I would consider it a failure if I don't make at least 4-5 new friends who I hang out consistently with. I know I cannot start off in this new place isolated, or else I'm doomed.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Billtx49

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Get to know men that are confortable with women and have some in their social circle. Keep your eyes open daily 24/7. Easiest way to build proof.
 

jacketrunner

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Good plan... except don’t focus on just female friends. Focus on making friends in general.

Why not go on dates though? You could use a dating app or just hit on girls when you go out.
 

oldmanofthesea

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I've turned a few girls I dated from OLD into friends. So that's one way. Join some clubs - a sport club of some kind for a sport you are sort of into. Lots of friend-circles form out of those and most are very co-ed.
 

R.U.G.

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Bumble has a section to meet women outside of dating. Pretty easy to meet with them on a platonic level.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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