"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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My girlfriend just broke up with me 2 months ago.She said should wanted to maintain a friendship.I know its a shot in the dark but will my getting in really good shape and being more involved in different activities make her feel that attraction again especially if other women show interest in me.I think i win either way.If she does want me again that's great but if not i will have other women who will and i will build up my confidence.Thanks
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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sounds like you have the right idea. Except - you should do this for YOU. Not to get her back.

click on health an fitness =>the vault =>where to begin.

start a log there and the veterans will watch and help your progress :)
 
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Thanks.I am doing it for me to build my confidence that's the most important part however if she becomes attracted to me again then great.There will be other women that will want me if she doesn't. I know in the past when you see an ex a year later and they are in great shape it is very attractive.You take noticed and inside say WOW.Not just because of how much better she looks but the confidence and the hard work to get in shape.It shows that the person is not just staying at home feeling down on themselves.Its like a new person.I am by no means giving myself false hopes.I just think she will take notice of the new me and her friends will too.And even if she looks at the new me and is saying wow inside it doesnt mean she will do anything about it.
 
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Trying to see an ex you still have feelings for is one of the worst things you can do. I can tell you from experience and I'm sure numerous others on here will tell you the same.

Work on bettering yourself. Like you said hitting the gym and other things.

Thinking about her or having her influence any decision you make is not doing yourself any favors, my friend.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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You are right.I need to just forget about her and avoid her.Its not about her anymore its about me...Thanks for advice.I truly appreciate it in these hard times..:)
 
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What will happen is she will come back but guess what? You 100% won't give a **** and in the end you'll feel quite embarrassed for her. Feels good
 
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i was once seeing an extreme BPD who i had one-itis for really badly. my oneitis was so bad i actually used to pray to god to make us be together.

and you know what? we always got back together. but she was always the same lying, treacherous BPD she'd always been so i always ended up leaving her.

be careful what you wish for i guess.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yes, getting in shape will get her back, but only if you make a noticeable improvement. You should do that anyway, and know that although sex with her again in the future is not unlikely, the relationship will never be the same. It's like a car that had an accident.
 
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i was once seeing an extreme BPD who i had one-itis for really badly. my oneitis was so bad i actually used to pray to god to make us be together.

and you know what? we always got back together. but she was always the same lying, treacherous BPD she'd always been so i always ended up leaving her.

be careful what you wish for i guess.
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Story of my life. Every girl i meet comoared to her is boring af to me, so when she contacts it always does the same cycle. I actually feel bad when im banging chicks cause i hope they dont have the wrong idea, and they usually do.

As mikey 2012 said, they ALWAYS come back. Every one of them, until they find another guy willing to put up w. Their crap longer than you did.
 
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Don't waste your time. One thing I absolutely regret trying to get back with an ex is time and mental energy.

I got back with her a couple times and you know what? In the end she ended up with another guy.

What a waste
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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