"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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My girlfriend just broke up with me 2 months ago.She said should wanted to maintain a friendship.I know its a shot in the dark but will my getting in really good shape and being more involved in different activities make her feel that attraction again especially if other women show interest in me.I think i win either way.If she does want me again that's great but if not i will have other women who will and i will build up my confidence.Thanks
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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sounds like you have the right idea. Except - you should do this for YOU. Not to get her back.

click on health an fitness =>the vault =>where to begin.

start a log there and the veterans will watch and help your progress :)
 
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Thanks.I am doing it for me to build my confidence that's the most important part however if she becomes attracted to me again then great.There will be other women that will want me if she doesn't. I know in the past when you see an ex a year later and they are in great shape it is very attractive.You take noticed and inside say WOW.Not just because of how much better she looks but the confidence and the hard work to get in shape.It shows that the person is not just staying at home feeling down on themselves.Its like a new person.I am by no means giving myself false hopes.I just think she will take notice of the new me and her friends will too.And even if she looks at the new me and is saying wow inside it doesnt mean she will do anything about it.
 
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Trying to see an ex you still have feelings for is one of the worst things you can do. I can tell you from experience and I'm sure numerous others on here will tell you the same.

Work on bettering yourself. Like you said hitting the gym and other things.

Thinking about her or having her influence any decision you make is not doing yourself any favors, my friend.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You are right.I need to just forget about her and avoid her.Its not about her anymore its about me...Thanks for advice.I truly appreciate it in these hard times..:)
 
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What will happen is she will come back but guess what? You 100% won't give a **** and in the end you'll feel quite embarrassed for her. Feels good
 
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i was once seeing an extreme BPD who i had one-itis for really badly. my oneitis was so bad i actually used to pray to god to make us be together.

and you know what? we always got back together. but she was always the same lying, treacherous BPD she'd always been so i always ended up leaving her.

be careful what you wish for i guess.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yes, getting in shape will get her back, but only if you make a noticeable improvement. You should do that anyway, and know that although sex with her again in the future is not unlikely, the relationship will never be the same. It's like a car that had an accident.
 
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i was once seeing an extreme BPD who i had one-itis for really badly. my oneitis was so bad i actually used to pray to god to make us be together.

and you know what? we always got back together. but she was always the same lying, treacherous BPD she'd always been so i always ended up leaving her.

be careful what you wish for i guess.
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Story of my life. Every girl i meet comoared to her is boring af to me, so when she contacts it always does the same cycle. I actually feel bad when im banging chicks cause i hope they dont have the wrong idea, and they usually do.

As mikey 2012 said, they ALWAYS come back. Every one of them, until they find another guy willing to put up w. Their crap longer than you did.
 
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Don't waste your time. One thing I absolutely regret trying to get back with an ex is time and mental energy.

I got back with her a couple times and you know what? In the end she ended up with another guy.

What a waste
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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