"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How to get ANY girl

Supremo

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You'll hear about special "methods" and "techniques" used to get girls. But none of that will work unless you learn to be social.

Think of it like you got your arm cut off. You should be worried about stopping the bleeding before you think about bench pressing again. Your cut off arm is the lack of social skills, the bench pressing is seducing girls. (Great analogy, I know.)

You need to learn to be social before you even think about seducing girls.

I feel like a broken record by saying to go out and talk to anyone and everyone you meet (yes, talking to strangers is a GOOD thing in this case), but some people just don't seem to get it.

Talking to people just in your high school is a start, but go into town and chat up the locals. Start small and ask for the time... progress to talking about the weather... from there talk about local sports and just about anything.

Work on eye contact as well. It WILL seem awkward at first if you've spend most of your life unable to maintain it, but after a while it'll become second nature to do so.

Once you can comfortably chat up people you don't know without problems (stopping the bleeding), then you can refer to the canned lines and other techniques people use to get the girls (bench pressing).

Don't be a keyboard jockey. Get out there and make changes in your life. NOW!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I guess "learn to walk before you run" was the analogy you were looking for... but yeah, that makes sense.
 

J-dog

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Is oké but I'm Chinese and live in Belgium. What am I with that?!?!?!
 
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I agree. How you supposed to chat to girls if you can't even chat to men or old ladys and I don't know what you're with that J-Dog.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I agree with you but I just can't become social.I don't even have good friends.I want to break the ice but I don't know how.
 
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