i'm currently with this girl with extremely high interest level but not much experience. she always tries to lay down ground rules and other awkward mood killing things before anything happens. (could also because she thinks of me as the player type) i'm trying to just have this girl be a last summer fling so how can i get her to open up a bit?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
how to get a prude to open up
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Ask her how it would work if you would both just do whatever you felt like doing and if she thinks you're doing something wrong, she'll tell you to stop and you will.
Here.. the key is to turn her on to make her want to move on to the next level before she could say stop. TEASE her into wanting more. if the next step is to touch her breasts, then touch her back, her sides, her stomach, kiss her collarbone.. get REALLY close with your hands then move away for a few minutes and shift to her back again.. repeat a few times. when you feel she's ready, you go for grabbing her breast, also slow and probing. same goes for absolutely everything else.
women take about 20-30 minutes longer than men to get turned on, so if you make HER wait past those 20-30 minutes.. she's yours.
Here.. the key is to turn her on to make her want to move on to the next level before she could say stop. TEASE her into wanting more. if the next step is to touch her breasts, then touch her back, her sides, her stomach, kiss her collarbone.. get REALLY close with your hands then move away for a few minutes and shift to her back again.. repeat a few times. when you feel she's ready, you go for grabbing her breast, also slow and probing. same goes for absolutely everything else.
women take about 20-30 minutes longer than men to get turned on, so if you make HER wait past those 20-30 minutes.. she's yours.
MacDiddy
Master Don Juan
Agree with her LMR.. "Yes... we shouldn't be doing this!!" Then continue the lay like what you said never really registered in your mind.
Make the HO say NO!!!
Make the HO say NO!!!
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
She beat you to it with the ground rules.
Next time you are about to lay down or cuddle YOU make a ground rule "alright, lets cuddle but no kissing" or "fine lets lay down on the bed but no funny business, ok?"
Next time you are about to lay down or cuddle YOU make a ground rule "alright, lets cuddle but no kissing" or "fine lets lay down on the bed but no funny business, ok?"
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
sounds like that could backfire...you want me to "out prude" her?Originally posted by I'm Joe Dirt
She beat you to it with the ground rules.
Next time you are about to lay down or cuddle YOU make a ground rule "alright, lets cuddle but no kissing" or "fine lets lay down on the bed but no funny business, ok?"
so all of my efforts failed to get her to go for more than an HJ. i feel like theres some greater issue here...can't tell whats up with this whole thing though. very frustrating. i've been as persistant as i can be and although i didn't mind hookin up with this girl for a while, i'd really like to step things up here.
my ex was a huge prude too.
what you can try is not touch her for a day or two, she will be like "whats wrong you are so distant? you dont like me anymore?"
chances are she will initiate the touching and maybe you are a level up in the touchabillity so to speak.
worth a try i suppose
what you can try is not touch her for a day or two, she will be like "whats wrong you are so distant? you dont like me anymore?"
chances are she will initiate the touching and maybe you are a level up in the touchabillity so to speak.
worth a try i suppose
yea i was thinking about inviting her over to watch a movie and just act all engrossed in the movie and just ignore her. i'm not about to settle for no BJ BY THE 4th MEETING. my pen0r needs some serious attention lol.
EDIT: i just found her hair clip in my bed...not sure whether this is the intentional marking of territory or if she actually forgot it.
EDIT: i just found her hair clip in my bed...not sure whether this is the intentional marking of territory or if she actually forgot it.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.