i'm currently with this girl with extremely high interest level but not much experience. she always tries to lay down ground rules and other awkward mood killing things before anything happens. (could also because she thinks of me as the player type) i'm trying to just have this girl be a last summer fling so how can i get her to open up a bit?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
how to get a prude to open up
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Ask her how it would work if you would both just do whatever you felt like doing and if she thinks you're doing something wrong, she'll tell you to stop and you will.
Here.. the key is to turn her on to make her want to move on to the next level before she could say stop. TEASE her into wanting more. if the next step is to touch her breasts, then touch her back, her sides, her stomach, kiss her collarbone.. get REALLY close with your hands then move away for a few minutes and shift to her back again.. repeat a few times. when you feel she's ready, you go for grabbing her breast, also slow and probing. same goes for absolutely everything else.
women take about 20-30 minutes longer than men to get turned on, so if you make HER wait past those 20-30 minutes.. she's yours.
Here.. the key is to turn her on to make her want to move on to the next level before she could say stop. TEASE her into wanting more. if the next step is to touch her breasts, then touch her back, her sides, her stomach, kiss her collarbone.. get REALLY close with your hands then move away for a few minutes and shift to her back again.. repeat a few times. when you feel she's ready, you go for grabbing her breast, also slow and probing. same goes for absolutely everything else.
women take about 20-30 minutes longer than men to get turned on, so if you make HER wait past those 20-30 minutes.. she's yours.
MacDiddy
Master Don Juan
Agree with her LMR.. "Yes... we shouldn't be doing this!!" Then continue the lay like what you said never really registered in your mind.
Make the HO say NO!!!
Make the HO say NO!!!
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
She beat you to it with the ground rules.
Next time you are about to lay down or cuddle YOU make a ground rule "alright, lets cuddle but no kissing" or "fine lets lay down on the bed but no funny business, ok?"
Next time you are about to lay down or cuddle YOU make a ground rule "alright, lets cuddle but no kissing" or "fine lets lay down on the bed but no funny business, ok?"
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
sounds like that could backfire...you want me to "out prude" her?Originally posted by I'm Joe Dirt
She beat you to it with the ground rules.
Next time you are about to lay down or cuddle YOU make a ground rule "alright, lets cuddle but no kissing" or "fine lets lay down on the bed but no funny business, ok?"
so all of my efforts failed to get her to go for more than an HJ. i feel like theres some greater issue here...can't tell whats up with this whole thing though. very frustrating. i've been as persistant as i can be and although i didn't mind hookin up with this girl for a while, i'd really like to step things up here.
my ex was a huge prude too.
what you can try is not touch her for a day or two, she will be like "whats wrong you are so distant? you dont like me anymore?"
chances are she will initiate the touching and maybe you are a level up in the touchabillity so to speak.
worth a try i suppose
what you can try is not touch her for a day or two, she will be like "whats wrong you are so distant? you dont like me anymore?"
chances are she will initiate the touching and maybe you are a level up in the touchabillity so to speak.
worth a try i suppose
yea i was thinking about inviting her over to watch a movie and just act all engrossed in the movie and just ignore her. i'm not about to settle for no BJ BY THE 4th MEETING. my pen0r needs some serious attention lol.
EDIT: i just found her hair clip in my bed...not sure whether this is the intentional marking of territory or if she actually forgot it.
EDIT: i just found her hair clip in my bed...not sure whether this is the intentional marking of territory or if she actually forgot it.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.