"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How to find out if she has a bf...

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DJorBUST

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There's a girl I have a thing for and the last time I spoke with her 4 months ago she mentioned a boyfriend. She called me again recently and I need to find out if she is still seeing this guy and wasting my time or if she's a go.

What's the best way to work the question into the conversation?
One female friend of mine suggested just asking straight up "Are you seeing anybody right now?"
The other female friend said that was a bad idea.
I tried asking what's she up to these days and what she's doing for fun hoping she would bring him up again. Nothing yet. I've only spoken with her briefly since she reinitiated contact.

What do you guys think is the best approach? Blunt and up front or indirect?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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well what I would say is so are you and that dude still together? just make it casual so it wont be embarassing. thats what I do. I guess either way could be good, its just I hate going up to girls and saying so are you single? to me it sounds kinda desperate.
 
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If he hasn't come up in conversation, assume he's no longer with her and game on. Just go after her. Chicks don't want a guy who sits and waits for green lights, they want guy who runs red lights at 100 m.p.h. ;).
 
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Four months is too long to think about a girl, why don't you just fvck the b!tch first and find out if she still has her boyfriend after that.
 
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Actually, I wasn't really thinking about her for those four months. It's easy for me to dismiss a girl when she's not physically around and I know for sure she has a boyfriend. It's just that she contact me recently and asked if I wanted to catch a movie with her. That's when my interest re-ignited.

This isn't a club girl. She's fairly religious and it will probably take a bit before she'll just **** me (I'm not talking about a freakin' year though). I'm going to invite her out next weekend for dinner and a night on the beach. If she's down, then I'll assume that's a red light for me to run at 100 mph :D

Thanks for the advice...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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