"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How to find out if she has a bf...

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There's a girl I have a thing for and the last time I spoke with her 4 months ago she mentioned a boyfriend. She called me again recently and I need to find out if she is still seeing this guy and wasting my time or if she's a go.

What's the best way to work the question into the conversation?
One female friend of mine suggested just asking straight up "Are you seeing anybody right now?"
The other female friend said that was a bad idea.
I tried asking what's she up to these days and what she's doing for fun hoping she would bring him up again. Nothing yet. I've only spoken with her briefly since she reinitiated contact.

What do you guys think is the best approach? Blunt and up front or indirect?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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well what I would say is so are you and that dude still together? just make it casual so it wont be embarassing. thats what I do. I guess either way could be good, its just I hate going up to girls and saying so are you single? to me it sounds kinda desperate.
 
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If he hasn't come up in conversation, assume he's no longer with her and game on. Just go after her. Chicks don't want a guy who sits and waits for green lights, they want guy who runs red lights at 100 m.p.h. ;).
 
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Four months is too long to think about a girl, why don't you just fvck the b!tch first and find out if she still has her boyfriend after that.
 
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Actually, I wasn't really thinking about her for those four months. It's easy for me to dismiss a girl when she's not physically around and I know for sure she has a boyfriend. It's just that she contact me recently and asked if I wanted to catch a movie with her. That's when my interest re-ignited.

This isn't a club girl. She's fairly religious and it will probably take a bit before she'll just **** me (I'm not talking about a freakin' year though). I'm going to invite her out next weekend for dinner and a night on the beach. If she's down, then I'll assume that's a red light for me to run at 100 mph :D

Thanks for the advice...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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