"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How to find out if she has a bf...

DJorBUST

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There's a girl I have a thing for and the last time I spoke with her 4 months ago she mentioned a boyfriend. She called me again recently and I need to find out if she is still seeing this guy and wasting my time or if she's a go.

What's the best way to work the question into the conversation?
One female friend of mine suggested just asking straight up "Are you seeing anybody right now?"
The other female friend said that was a bad idea.
I tried asking what's she up to these days and what she's doing for fun hoping she would bring him up again. Nothing yet. I've only spoken with her briefly since she reinitiated contact.

What do you guys think is the best approach? Blunt and up front or indirect?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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avrilishot

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well what I would say is so are you and that dude still together? just make it casual so it wont be embarassing. thats what I do. I guess either way could be good, its just I hate going up to girls and saying so are you single? to me it sounds kinda desperate.
 

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If he hasn't come up in conversation, assume he's no longer with her and game on. Just go after her. Chicks don't want a guy who sits and waits for green lights, they want guy who runs red lights at 100 m.p.h. ;).
 
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Four months is too long to think about a girl, why don't you just fvck the b!tch first and find out if she still has her boyfriend after that.
 

DJorBUST

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Actually, I wasn't really thinking about her for those four months. It's easy for me to dismiss a girl when she's not physically around and I know for sure she has a boyfriend. It's just that she contact me recently and asked if I wanted to catch a movie with her. That's when my interest re-ignited.

This isn't a club girl. She's fairly religious and it will probably take a bit before she'll just **** me (I'm not talking about a freakin' year though). I'm going to invite her out next weekend for dinner and a night on the beach. If she's down, then I'll assume that's a red light for me to run at 100 mph :D

Thanks for the advice...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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