"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to fight back at jealousy :

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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that was probably the best article ive read on fear/jealousy/insecurity
 
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Yeah, it has really helped me out.

The main point is to shift your focus. I'm trying to radically convert myself.
The point is, if a person loves you, has great sex and is a great companion to you, why should you even care what she does on her time without you?

It sounds hard to grasp, but I hope I can some day...
 
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That's only a good attitude to an extent. If you start getting serious with a girl, for example get to the point where you can start having sex without condoms because she is on the pill, or maybe you've gotten married and are trying to have kids, you have damn good reasons to care what she does when she isn't with you.

Otherwise you might be dealing with herpes and raising somebody elses kid.

Actually you can get herpes even with a condom so...

Of course the insecure jealous boyfriend thing will do you no good, but being okay with her doing absolutely whatever isn't a good idea either.
 
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