"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How to destroy my nervousness

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Next week is school counsil election week and I need to have a speech in front of all the students in my school.

In normal classes, since it's small I have no anxiety speaking in front of the class at all. But when it comes down to speaking to the whole school, my hands shake and my heart pumps up like crazy. This is the like the first public speaking and I am damn hell nervous even right now.

How should I destroy this anxiety during and before the actual speech?


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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Choke the chicken...

Seriously, practice it in front of a mirror. Record yourself and then watch it over and over until you are desensitized.

Sometimes with a tough crowd, I like to pick out a few audience members who are attentive, friendly, and happy. I completely focus all of my attention and energy on them until I'm desensitized enough to focus on the rest. Try that. That trick has worked wonders for many people.

And don't picture them naked or something stupid. The worst it will do is it won't work and make you lose your composure.

And remember, if your speech is powerful, nobody will care how you look or talk or walk, etc.
 

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I have been in your position and honestly, I thought I'd be nervous but didn't really dwell on it. I'm not great public orator if you saw me on the street, but when the time comes THE WORDS JUST FLOW.

Anyways, when you're on stage mostly I saw PITCH BLACK and maybe some people in the few first rows because the goddamn LIGHTS are beating on your head hahaha and the contrast makes everything look pitch black...well not pitch black but you can't make out people's faces at all. Might have to do w/my bad vision haha, but whatever.

What helps me is I picture myself as a ****in CEO or something out there to make a speech because these people just gave me a big ass prize and I'm there to accept it by giving a little speech to show that yes, I accept all this ****in money.

If you have a God complex, on stage is the time to turn it on. Don't worry man, and guess what, I've ****ed up big time on stage before...I introduced the wrong guy to speak when it was supposed to be the principal.

I forgot about that incident and honestly I don't even remember because it HAPPENED SO FAST. But after the speech my buddies who are used to be being the quiet guy were like "dude you smoothed over that really well. I was shocked...I thought you'd lose it or something."

I basically said, "Now ladies sand gentleman here is Mr. XXXXXX. - I start walking to my chair and I look over to see confused faces on stage. I walk back - Actually, my mistake The principal will now give his regards. -clap clap clap."

No sweat you're gonna be fine man :)
 

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I'm planning to throw jokes at the audience, but alot of them don't even know me, will they get the joke and laugh? If I don't make them laugh, I would make myself look stupid, right? The speech has to be less than 1 minute



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dude. wtf? seriously. I didn't know people still had trouble with public speaking.

If you really want to get over public speaking or if you're just shy in general, then there's one very simple thing you can do to fix that problem. It's a one time thing that will fix this problem for the rest of your life;

Embarrass yourself in front of a bunch of people. Go ahead, don't be a wuss, it's not as bad as you think. It's actually pretty fun. Once you embarrass yourself in front of other people, public speaking will not make you nervous at all.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Take a shot of the liquid courage before hand. Loosens you up.
 

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You need to get used to it man. Use jokes if you want but #1 is BE CONFIDENT.

Be so goddamn confident on stage. If you're not they will not vote for you.
 

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How do I express my body language on the stage? When I talk, should my eyes be glancing everyone to the audience and move my hands?




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Look straight ahead. Bang on the pulpit with your fists. Wave your arms in the air. Talk about destroying the schools enemies. lol
 

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tweeked... no one is gonna be that crazy for me... banging on the pulpit, what affect does that make??



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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Pretend you're Bill Clinton. Or a news anchor. Pretend you flew in on a Learjet and you've got more white girls backstage than the first lifeboat on the Titanic.

In other words, get out of your own head. Be focused on your message instead of worrying about yourself so much.
 

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appraoch a lot of sets until then. pickup is just like public speaking
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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