"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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How to destroy my nervousness

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Next week is school counsil election week and I need to have a speech in front of all the students in my school.

In normal classes, since it's small I have no anxiety speaking in front of the class at all. But when it comes down to speaking to the whole school, my hands shake and my heart pumps up like crazy. This is the like the first public speaking and I am damn hell nervous even right now.

How should I destroy this anxiety during and before the actual speech?


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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Choke the chicken...

Seriously, practice it in front of a mirror. Record yourself and then watch it over and over until you are desensitized.

Sometimes with a tough crowd, I like to pick out a few audience members who are attentive, friendly, and happy. I completely focus all of my attention and energy on them until I'm desensitized enough to focus on the rest. Try that. That trick has worked wonders for many people.

And don't picture them naked or something stupid. The worst it will do is it won't work and make you lose your composure.

And remember, if your speech is powerful, nobody will care how you look or talk or walk, etc.
 

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I have been in your position and honestly, I thought I'd be nervous but didn't really dwell on it. I'm not great public orator if you saw me on the street, but when the time comes THE WORDS JUST FLOW.

Anyways, when you're on stage mostly I saw PITCH BLACK and maybe some people in the few first rows because the goddamn LIGHTS are beating on your head hahaha and the contrast makes everything look pitch black...well not pitch black but you can't make out people's faces at all. Might have to do w/my bad vision haha, but whatever.

What helps me is I picture myself as a ****in CEO or something out there to make a speech because these people just gave me a big ass prize and I'm there to accept it by giving a little speech to show that yes, I accept all this ****in money.

If you have a God complex, on stage is the time to turn it on. Don't worry man, and guess what, I've ****ed up big time on stage before...I introduced the wrong guy to speak when it was supposed to be the principal.

I forgot about that incident and honestly I don't even remember because it HAPPENED SO FAST. But after the speech my buddies who are used to be being the quiet guy were like "dude you smoothed over that really well. I was shocked...I thought you'd lose it or something."

I basically said, "Now ladies sand gentleman here is Mr. XXXXXX. - I start walking to my chair and I look over to see confused faces on stage. I walk back - Actually, my mistake The principal will now give his regards. -clap clap clap."

No sweat you're gonna be fine man :)
 

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I'm planning to throw jokes at the audience, but alot of them don't even know me, will they get the joke and laugh? If I don't make them laugh, I would make myself look stupid, right? The speech has to be less than 1 minute



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dude. wtf? seriously. I didn't know people still had trouble with public speaking.

If you really want to get over public speaking or if you're just shy in general, then there's one very simple thing you can do to fix that problem. It's a one time thing that will fix this problem for the rest of your life;

Embarrass yourself in front of a bunch of people. Go ahead, don't be a wuss, it's not as bad as you think. It's actually pretty fun. Once you embarrass yourself in front of other people, public speaking will not make you nervous at all.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Take a shot of the liquid courage before hand. Loosens you up.
 

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You need to get used to it man. Use jokes if you want but #1 is BE CONFIDENT.

Be so goddamn confident on stage. If you're not they will not vote for you.
 

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How do I express my body language on the stage? When I talk, should my eyes be glancing everyone to the audience and move my hands?




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Look straight ahead. Bang on the pulpit with your fists. Wave your arms in the air. Talk about destroying the schools enemies. lol
 

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tweeked... no one is gonna be that crazy for me... banging on the pulpit, what affect does that make??



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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Pretend you're Bill Clinton. Or a news anchor. Pretend you flew in on a Learjet and you've got more white girls backstage than the first lifeboat on the Titanic.

In other words, get out of your own head. Be focused on your message instead of worrying about yourself so much.
 

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appraoch a lot of sets until then. pickup is just like public speaking
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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