"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How to deal with women like this?

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Long story short there was this girl/woman (married but just a mutual friend that was a friends party) who blatantly ignored me when I said hello. My girlfriend and I also overheard her talking about this other girl like this "yeah I don't want to talk to a lowly person like her".

How do you put morons like this in their place ? I know for a fact we both make more than her (albeit being more than 10 years younger than her) . Put some choice words in my mouth but bit my tongue
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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daproest1

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“What’s that on your face? No, not there, to the left. No... to the right”

the whole time have a disgusted expression On your face. Before she catches your bluff, walk away.

this is an easy one. Not the best one.
 

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Long story short there was this girl/woman (married but just a mutual friend that was a friends party) who blatantly ignored me when I said hello. My girlfriend and I also overheard her talking about this other girl like this "yeah I don't want to talk to a lowly person like her".

How do you put morons like this in their place ? I know for a fact we both make more than her (albeit being more than 10 years younger than her) . Put some choice words in my mouth but bit my tongue
If you keep fighting with someone like that it'll drag your level down. I wouldn't go out of my way to engage it. Its a stronger position for you to be powerfully present, secure and ignore those types.
 

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Superiority complex. It is a mental disorder. Don’t invite mentally ill people over. Otherwise ignore them. If it is a party you can make anonymous call to police this car description licence plate the driver drank at a party address is now begind the wheel driving off.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Long story short there was this girl/woman (married but just a mutual friend that was a friends party) who blatantly ignored me when I said hello. My girlfriend and I also overheard her talking about this other girl like this "yeah I don't want to talk to a lowly person like her".

How do you put morons like this in their place ? I know for a fact we both make more than her (albeit being more than 10 years younger than her) . Put some choice words in my mouth but bit my tongue
You don't. You simply stop wasting emotional energy on them and eliminate them from your life.
 

ThisIsSparta

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You could just ignore her and do something useful with the time you spend plotting your revenge.
 

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If it doesn't benefit you to do something then I would ignore it. Ask yourself what possible good could come from calling her out, if the answer is none, then let it go. But for me I always found the best way to approach things like this is head on. Just walk up as friendly as you can be and ask say "XYZ, I understand you think I'm some kind of low-life, I was wondering what exactly gave you that impression?"

But really women do this all the time. It's really kind of funny... I'm be at a party or an event talking to a woman and she will look across the room and spot another woman and say "Look there is XYZ.... she's such a (blank), one time she blah blah blah..." Then 15 minutes later she comes up and they are hugging and talking about meeting for coffee later to catch up like they are best friends.

The very worst thing you can do is to start getting into gossip sessions with chicks... it never works out for you. Just let stuff roll off your back. When people say stuff like this just say "Well everyone is entitled to an opinion." Then change the subject and forget about it. You are NEVER going to get everyone to like you, it's just not possible. You surrender power to anyone that puts you down by being bothered about it.
 

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Superiority complex. It is a mental disorder. Don’t invite mentally ill people over. Otherwise ignore them. If it is a party you can make anonymous call to police this car description licence plate the driver drank at a party address is now begind the wheel driving off.
Very good description.
 

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Advice from the old lady:

This is a catty thing women who actually are either insecure or high brow snobby do. Just ignore it. It’s not worth the emotional bandwidth.

If you want to snub this kind of behavior you do so indirectly. For example demonstrate characteristics or admittance to organizations, destinations, or exclusive social strata that would require a certain income level or net worth. It’s a nuanced thing. You don’t confirm or deny your actual financial status...rather you demonstrate it through conversation that a person of lesser means would not or could not have access to. It is banal to discuss such things in an overt way. Polite company, however snotty will pick up those cues.

If you want to see examples watch the scenes involving the Doberman pincer painting from the recent Kevin Hart movie “The Upside”. It demonstrates what I am talking about (and how to deal with it) nicely.

In polite circles people often cover nastiness with a varnish of niceness. It is fake...sometimes quite obviously and offensively so...but overt calling out of such behavior risks being labeled as a rogue within the group...and that may not serve you.

Always be an adroit courtier. To do otherwise identifies you as unsophisticated.

I’ve dealt with this plenty over the years. It’s annoying but it’s the high brow social game within the social hierarchy.

Cheers
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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