"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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how to deal with two potential plates at the same party?

TopGun2000

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Basically I met both HBs roughly around the time a few weeks ago at different events. They both responded positively to my teasing and kino. However they both found excuses to my date suggestions later on. So I guess their ILs are not as high as I thought.

The interesting thing is that they will probably go to the same party that I am going to in a few days. So what's the best strategy I can apply at the party, focusing on one girl, giving both equal amount of attention, or ignoring both and gaming other HBs to make them jealous?

Thoughts pls? :)
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Aaron B said:
ignore them both and game other girls right in front of them
this is the correct answer.

or just talk to your boys and don't deal with either of them. but if you like one of them more than the other i would give that one more attention to try to get the other one to step her game up. but the worst thing you can do is try to kick it with one then kick it with the other at the same party. that's not going to work.
 

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Ok. I think I will just ignore both of them and game other girls right in front of them. If none of them steps her game up I will just next them both.
 
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one more question what if only one girl actually shows up at the party? still ignoring her?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TopGun2000 said:
one more question what if only one girl actually shows up at the party? still ignoring her?
stll talk to other chicks so she can step up her game. but do say hi once in a while. giving her the cold shoulder might just piss her off.
 

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I used to specifically host parties to create this situation. You can take a bunch of girls with medium interest level and put them in the same room as you and create high interest level. I was always in host mode which meant I treated everyone equally, giving them a few minutes as I made sure everyone had a drink, etc. I never had time to talk to many people for long but never ignored anyone or bounced anyone. At the end of the night women would approach me and offering their numbers (and one would often stay over that night ad lib).
 
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