"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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how to deal with two potential plates at the same party?

TopGun2000

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Basically I met both HBs roughly around the time a few weeks ago at different events. They both responded positively to my teasing and kino. However they both found excuses to my date suggestions later on. So I guess their ILs are not as high as I thought.

The interesting thing is that they will probably go to the same party that I am going to in a few days. So what's the best strategy I can apply at the party, focusing on one girl, giving both equal amount of attention, or ignoring both and gaming other HBs to make them jealous?

Thoughts pls? :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Aaron B said:
ignore them both and game other girls right in front of them
this is the correct answer.

or just talk to your boys and don't deal with either of them. but if you like one of them more than the other i would give that one more attention to try to get the other one to step her game up. but the worst thing you can do is try to kick it with one then kick it with the other at the same party. that's not going to work.
 

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Ok. I think I will just ignore both of them and game other girls right in front of them. If none of them steps her game up I will just next them both.
 
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one more question what if only one girl actually shows up at the party? still ignoring her?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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TopGun2000 said:
one more question what if only one girl actually shows up at the party? still ignoring her?
stll talk to other chicks so she can step up her game. but do say hi once in a while. giving her the cold shoulder might just piss her off.
 

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I used to specifically host parties to create this situation. You can take a bunch of girls with medium interest level and put them in the same room as you and create high interest level. I was always in host mode which meant I treated everyone equally, giving them a few minutes as I made sure everyone had a drink, etc. I never had time to talk to many people for long but never ignored anyone or bounced anyone. At the end of the night women would approach me and offering their numbers (and one would often stay over that night ad lib).
 
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