"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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How to deal with this: crying, emotional girlfriend.

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My example: she just texted me to tell me she is crying because she got a very bad mark for her thesis.

My first thought: I would be way more sympathetic if she did not tell me "I am crying".

So damn annoying...

I'm thinking I should call her on it, but then again it is pretty devastating to work so hard on a thesis only to get a bad mark. I have not talked to her yet; that was twenty minutes ago.

What do you guys think?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I know that information, it's great. But it doesn't answer my post. What's the right response - call her on it, make her feel angry about it?
 

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Why don't you try being there for her and supporting her?

There's nothing wrong with making her feel better about a bad situation like that once in a while. If she cries over every little thing, then you might have a problem on your hands, but as it is, you should just be supportive, tell her it'll be ok, and then take her out to have some fun to help her forget about it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The_Reaper said:
I know that information, it's great. But it doesn't answer my post. What's the right response - call her on it, make her feel angry about it?
Why not just let her be. Women cry often when they don't know how to deal with a problem once they stop crying they feel better about it so there is no need to get angry or sound the alarm bells. She will come around.

Vypros said:
Why don't you try being there for her and supporting her?
Whatever you do, don't voulenteer to be there for her or solve her problem if she hasn't asked from you.
 

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Vypros said:
Why don't you try being there for her and supporting her?

There's nothing wrong with making her feel better about a bad situation like that once in a while. If she cries over every little thing, then you might have a problem on your hands, but as it is, you should just be supportive, tell her it'll be ok, and then take her out to have some fun to help her forget about it.
Agreed.

Thesis...that's a BIG DEAL, there's nothing wrong with her crying about that. The fact that she told you she's crying means that she trusts you and is asking for your support right now. Why would you be annoyed over something like that?
 

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When she cries sock her in the face. Blood and tears combining release a chemical known as Xerotyphofane, which increases the sex drive and boosts endorphins.
 
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Bible_Belt said:
Emotional women tend to be more sexual. You take the good with the bad.
Replace "sexual" with "feminine" then I am in agreement!!

She is looking for emotional support and not your rational response - give it to her - not asking for much - is she? Unless her premise on her thesis was "Hors are a legitimate entity in 21st century America!!" If so, then slap the ho!!!!! http://www.aeonity.com/ab/games/simulation/slap-that-ho.php
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Last Man Standing said:
Replace "sexual" with "feminine" then I am in agreement!!

She is looking for emotional support and not your rational response - give it to her - not asking for much - is she? Unless her premise on her thesis was "Hors are a legitimate entity in 21st century America!!" If so, then slap the ho!!!!! http://www.aeonity.com/ab/games/simulation/slap-that-ho.php
LOL

I got 369 mph!
 
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Falcon said:
LOL

I got 369 mph!
No way!!!!! I've been slapping that ho, in lieu of my current hos due to legal constraints, for four years and have yet to achieve such heights - 369MPh - -- surely you jest, considering that you slapped her for a mere minute - If so, then you are a SUPER, SUPER, SUPER, SUPER PIMP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

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Last Man Standing said:
No way!!!!! I've been slapping that ho, in lieu of my current hos due to legal constraints, for four years and have yet to achieve such heights - 369MPh - -- surely you jest, considering that you slapped her for a mere minute - If so, then you are a SUPER, SUPER, SUPER, SUPER PIMP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
im not kidding! it was my second try... i was able to get a 368 some time after. So I'm sure someone will or already has exceeded 369
 
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Falcon, you must have the keys to The Matrix!! No one individual has done such speed in such a short while and with less attempts then your stated amount!! Only the Australian Street Pimp - DJ Lost In Translation himself has claimed such!!!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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DJDamage said:
Whatever you do, don't voulenteer to be there for her or solve her problem if she hasn't asked from you.
There's a difference between "being there for her" and "solving her problem". She NEVER wants you to solve her problem. NEVER.

But "solving her problem" is the OPPPOSITE of "being there for her".

Clearing that up.
 
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