"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How to deal with this: crying, emotional girlfriend.

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My example: she just texted me to tell me she is crying because she got a very bad mark for her thesis.

My first thought: I would be way more sympathetic if she did not tell me "I am crying".

So damn annoying...

I'm thinking I should call her on it, but then again it is pretty devastating to work so hard on a thesis only to get a bad mark. I have not talked to her yet; that was twenty minutes ago.

What do you guys think?
 

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I know that information, it's great. But it doesn't answer my post. What's the right response - call her on it, make her feel angry about it?
 
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Why don't you try being there for her and supporting her?

There's nothing wrong with making her feel better about a bad situation like that once in a while. If she cries over every little thing, then you might have a problem on your hands, but as it is, you should just be supportive, tell her it'll be ok, and then take her out to have some fun to help her forget about it.
 

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The_Reaper said:
I know that information, it's great. But it doesn't answer my post. What's the right response - call her on it, make her feel angry about it?
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Why not just let her be. Women cry often when they don't know how to deal with a problem once they stop crying they feel better about it so there is no need to get angry or sound the alarm bells. She will come around.

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Why don't you try being there for her and supporting her?
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Whatever you do, don't voulenteer to be there for her or solve her problem if she hasn't asked from you.
 
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Vypros said:
Why don't you try being there for her and supporting her?

There's nothing wrong with making her feel better about a bad situation like that once in a while. If she cries over every little thing, then you might have a problem on your hands, but as it is, you should just be supportive, tell her it'll be ok, and then take her out to have some fun to help her forget about it.
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Agreed.

Thesis...that's a BIG DEAL, there's nothing wrong with her crying about that. The fact that she told you she's crying means that she trusts you and is asking for your support right now. Why would you be annoyed over something like that?
 
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When she cries sock her in the face. Blood and tears combining release a chemical known as Xerotyphofane, which increases the sex drive and boosts endorphins.
 
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Emotional women tend to be more sexual. You take the good with the bad.
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Replace "sexual" with "feminine" then I am in agreement!!

She is looking for emotional support and not your rational response - give it to her - not asking for much - is she? Unless her premise on her thesis was "Hors are a legitimate entity in 21st century America!!" If so, then slap the ho!!!!! http://www.aeonity.com/ab/games/simulation/slap-that-ho.php
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Last Man Standing said:
Replace "sexual" with "feminine" then I am in agreement!!

She is looking for emotional support and not your rational response - give it to her - not asking for much - is she? Unless her premise on her thesis was "Hors are a legitimate entity in 21st century America!!" If so, then slap the ho!!!!! http://www.aeonity.com/ab/games/simulation/slap-that-ho.php
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LOL

I got 369 mph!
 
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LOL

I got 369 mph!
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No way!!!!! I've been slapping that ho, in lieu of my current hos due to legal constraints, for four years and have yet to achieve such heights - 369MPh - -- surely you jest, considering that you slapped her for a mere minute - If so, then you are a SUPER, SUPER, SUPER, SUPER PIMP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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No way!!!!! I've been slapping that ho, in lieu of my current hos due to legal constraints, for four years and have yet to achieve such heights - 369MPh - -- surely you jest, considering that you slapped her for a mere minute - If so, then you are a SUPER, SUPER, SUPER, SUPER PIMP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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im not kidding! it was my second try... i was able to get a 368 some time after. So I'm sure someone will or already has exceeded 369
 
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Falcon, you must have the keys to The Matrix!! No one individual has done such speed in such a short while and with less attempts then your stated amount!! Only the Australian Street Pimp - DJ Lost In Translation himself has claimed such!!!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

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DJDamage said:
Whatever you do, don't voulenteer to be there for her or solve her problem if she hasn't asked from you.
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There's a difference between "being there for her" and "solving her problem". She NEVER wants you to solve her problem. NEVER.

But "solving her problem" is the OPPPOSITE of "being there for her".

Clearing that up.
 
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