"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to deal with this: crying, emotional girlfriend.

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My example: she just texted me to tell me she is crying because she got a very bad mark for her thesis.

My first thought: I would be way more sympathetic if she did not tell me "I am crying".

So damn annoying...

I'm thinking I should call her on it, but then again it is pretty devastating to work so hard on a thesis only to get a bad mark. I have not talked to her yet; that was twenty minutes ago.

What do you guys think?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I know that information, it's great. But it doesn't answer my post. What's the right response - call her on it, make her feel angry about it?
 
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Why don't you try being there for her and supporting her?

There's nothing wrong with making her feel better about a bad situation like that once in a while. If she cries over every little thing, then you might have a problem on your hands, but as it is, you should just be supportive, tell her it'll be ok, and then take her out to have some fun to help her forget about it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The_Reaper said:
I know that information, it's great. But it doesn't answer my post. What's the right response - call her on it, make her feel angry about it?
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Why not just let her be. Women cry often when they don't know how to deal with a problem once they stop crying they feel better about it so there is no need to get angry or sound the alarm bells. She will come around.

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Why don't you try being there for her and supporting her?
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Whatever you do, don't voulenteer to be there for her or solve her problem if she hasn't asked from you.
 
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Vypros said:
Why don't you try being there for her and supporting her?

There's nothing wrong with making her feel better about a bad situation like that once in a while. If she cries over every little thing, then you might have a problem on your hands, but as it is, you should just be supportive, tell her it'll be ok, and then take her out to have some fun to help her forget about it.
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Agreed.

Thesis...that's a BIG DEAL, there's nothing wrong with her crying about that. The fact that she told you she's crying means that she trusts you and is asking for your support right now. Why would you be annoyed over something like that?
 
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When she cries sock her in the face. Blood and tears combining release a chemical known as Xerotyphofane, which increases the sex drive and boosts endorphins.
 
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Emotional women tend to be more sexual. You take the good with the bad.
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Replace "sexual" with "feminine" then I am in agreement!!

She is looking for emotional support and not your rational response - give it to her - not asking for much - is she? Unless her premise on her thesis was "Hors are a legitimate entity in 21st century America!!" If so, then slap the ho!!!!! http://www.aeonity.com/ab/games/simulation/slap-that-ho.php
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Last Man Standing said:
Replace "sexual" with "feminine" then I am in agreement!!

She is looking for emotional support and not your rational response - give it to her - not asking for much - is she? Unless her premise on her thesis was "Hors are a legitimate entity in 21st century America!!" If so, then slap the ho!!!!! http://www.aeonity.com/ab/games/simulation/slap-that-ho.php
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LOL

I got 369 mph!
 
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I got 369 mph!
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No way!!!!! I've been slapping that ho, in lieu of my current hos due to legal constraints, for four years and have yet to achieve such heights - 369MPh - -- surely you jest, considering that you slapped her for a mere minute - If so, then you are a SUPER, SUPER, SUPER, SUPER PIMP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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No way!!!!! I've been slapping that ho, in lieu of my current hos due to legal constraints, for four years and have yet to achieve such heights - 369MPh - -- surely you jest, considering that you slapped her for a mere minute - If so, then you are a SUPER, SUPER, SUPER, SUPER PIMP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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im not kidding! it was my second try... i was able to get a 368 some time after. So I'm sure someone will or already has exceeded 369
 
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Falcon, you must have the keys to The Matrix!! No one individual has done such speed in such a short while and with less attempts then your stated amount!! Only the Australian Street Pimp - DJ Lost In Translation himself has claimed such!!!
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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DJDamage said:
Whatever you do, don't voulenteer to be there for her or solve her problem if she hasn't asked from you.
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There's a difference between "being there for her" and "solving her problem". She NEVER wants you to solve her problem. NEVER.

But "solving her problem" is the OPPPOSITE of "being there for her".

Clearing that up.
 
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