"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How to deal with "sucking" at something

noirsake

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Ok.

Well for example, I'm not a good bowler..at all. I feel lucky when I hit one pin down. I know I can get better at it, but I never really have enjoyed bowling. My friends frequently go to bowling and I go along so I don't have to stay at home.

Anyways what should I do/say when I really "suck" at something? I usually just say stuff like "Damn I'm good" when I get a gutter ball or whatever. I do, as a matter of fact, never say I suck even when I do.

Thanks
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ChrizZ

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you suck for creating a thread like this.
 

DJVladdy

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figure it out, whichever response u feel comfortable with. You worry too much
 

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if you can make fun of yourself when you suck, you won't lose value

I hate bowling too brother :)
 

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dude your not the only one that sucks, im like that as well. just try to be funny about it.and dont let it get you down. take care.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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noirsake said:
How to deal with "sucking" at something? Thanks
Be the best sucker out there - master the suck so that no one in the universe can out suck you! For example, if someone throws 3 gutter balls while bowling, then make sure you throw 6 gutter balls!
 
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