"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How To Deal With Silent Treatment From Gf
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
wifehunter
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Yes, with no respect, there is no love.
soulforge
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Man i feel i wasted so much of my life here.. my biggest problem with her is, when she does fuk up, there is never an apology afterwards.. this makes me very angry.
She has made some lame excuses of how she misses, her house back in her city, thats why she finds it difficult to live with me..
Then why the hell move in with me.. I keep kidding myself into believing if try to communicate better, it could work out.. but it never does..
I can't change who she is.. i just need to accept she is not good for or right for me.. i certainly cannot depend on this relationship with her
wifehunter
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You've invested enough time already, better to cut your losses.
Hey lady! Don't let the door hit you in the a55, on the way out!!!
Yes. Nothing productive has ever come out of your encounters with her.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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RISE ABOVE. Life gives us choices. CHOOSE (and know) your value.
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That's because she WAS fine about it and wanted to leave.
When a woman wants out of a relationship but doesn't want to do the breakup herself. She will manufacture a fight to push you to do it. That way, she appears blameless in the whole thing.
For a codependent like yourself, you are a prime target. Not only because she can manipulate you easily but with a fickle mind like yours, you will constantly second guess your choice which will have you crawling back to her again. It's a vicious cycle. One that can be easily broken if you just take the advice given to you.
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I agree with you.. she wanted to leave, but here is the thing.. I wanted her to leave too.. i was sick of all the BS the disrespect, the fallouts every other month..
Sick of the silence between us, the lack of sex.. This relationship was problematic from day one..
I have to rise above this BS somehow get through this, and realise my life would have been wasted with her
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She wanted a long goodbye BS so told her no need for that, pack your chit and leave
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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The main problem is.. when I communicate with her, she never excepts any responsibility.. she is hell bent on blaming me, and the words sorry NEVER comes to her mouth..
So we end up arguing.. I'm a pretty hot headed guy, in the sense, when she makes irrational accusations or shifts all blame on me, i feel like i need to put her straight or speak up for myself.. or call her out for disrespect.
Communication with her, was truly a difficult task
Hopefully "pack your chit and leave," are the last words you ever speak to her. That is all she deserves.
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Well i have blocked her on whatsapp, got a couple of text off her today.. just ignored them, didn't even bother reading
mrgoodstuff
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Man sorry you have to go through this. I'm sure this time you mean it. It really was a waste and a drain on your life.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Thanks man.. just finding it difficult, was so used to her being around, its difficult to be on your own again..
Just can't keep forgiving someone who disrespects me.. and not even a apology from
If she at least apologised afterwards i would feel some what better about things, or feel there was some kind of hope.. but she infact makes things worse by denying any responsibility..
This builds resentment in me for her.. how can i live like this
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Thanks man.. here is the thing, every couple or LTR has occasional arguments.. but when it comes to disrespect, I can't let her get away with that..
If i call her out on it, she does not apologise and does her best to make it my fault.. this builds so much resentment in me for her.
Sometimes a simple apology just makes things right.. also she moved from her town to be with me.
Now she claims she misses her home town and her old routine.. so i told her to go back.. why move in with me in the first place..
I can't commit to someone or build a future with a girl, who could just move back out at any time.
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Kick her to the kerb.
Everyone on this forum thinks you can do better. Go and be better. Go and do better.
Yes you are doing the right thing by getting rid of her.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.