How To Deal With Silent Treatment From Gf

[soulforge]

Have I done the right thing letting her go??

I,m full doubts, but i don't understand why

 

[wifehunter]

Have I done the right thing letting her go??

I,m full doubts, but i don't understand why

Yes, with no respect, there is no love.

 

[soulforge]

Yes, with no respect, there is no love.

Man i feel i wasted so much of my life here.. my biggest problem with her is, when she does fuk up, there is never an apology afterwards.. this makes me very angry.

She has made some lame excuses of how she misses, her house back in her city, thats why she finds it difficult to live with me..

Then why the hell move in with me.. I keep kidding myself into believing if try to communicate better, it could work out.. but it never does..

I can't change who she is.. i just need to accept she is not good for or right for me.. i certainly cannot depend on this relationship with her

 

[wifehunter]

Man i feel i wasted so much of my life here.. my biggest problem with her is, when she does fuk up, there is never an apology afterwards.. this makes me very angry.

She has made some lame excuses of how she misses, her house back in her city, thats why she finds it difficult to live with me..

Then why the hell move in with me.. I keep kidding myself into believing if try to communicate better, it could work out.. but it never does..

I can't change who she is.. i just need to accept she is not good for or right for me.. i certainly cannot depend on this relationship with her

You've invested enough time already, better to cut your losses.

Hey lady! Don't let the door hit you in the a55, on the way out!!!

 

[dude99]

Have I done the right thing letting her go??

I,m full doubts, but i don't understand why

Yes. Nothing productive has ever come out of your encounters with her.

 

[l_e_g_e_n_d]

You set your own value with the decisions that you make. If you think you are worth dealing with a problematic, disrespectful woman 5-10 years your senior with break ups every other month, then that is your value, and you and she are of equal value.

RISE ABOVE. Life gives us choices. CHOOSE (and know) your value.

 

[El Payaso]

This morning I told her it is over.. and she needs to leave.. she seemed fine about it, and seems like she wanted to leave anyway.

That's because she WAS fine about it and wanted to leave.

When a woman wants out of a relationship but doesn't want to do the breakup herself. She will manufacture a fight to push you to do it. That way, she appears blameless in the whole thing.

For a codependent like yourself, you are a prime target. Not only because she can manipulate you easily but with a fickle mind like yours, you will constantly second guess your choice which will have you crawling back to her again. It's a vicious cycle. One that can be easily broken if you just take the advice given to you.

 

[soulforge]

That's because she WAS fine about it and wanted to leave.

When a woman wants out of a relationship but doesn't want to do the breakup herself. She will manufacture a fight to push you to do it. That way, she appears blameless in the whole thing.

For a codependent like yourself, you are a prime target. Not only because she can manipulate you easily but with a fickle mind like yours, you will constantly second guess your choice which will have you crawling back to her again. It's a vicious cycle. One that can be easily broken if you just take the advice given to you.

I agree with you.. she wanted to leave, but here is the thing.. I wanted her to leave too.. i was sick of all the BS the disrespect, the fallouts every other month..

Sick of the silence between us, the lack of sex.. This relationship was problematic from day one..

I have to rise above this BS somehow get through this, and realise my life would have been wasted with her

 

[soulforge]

The last couple of weeks I was serious about asking her to leave.. she told me this morning she wanted to go home, I told her straight that is totally fine, i don't want her here any longer either..

She wanted a long goodbye BS so told her no need for that, pack your chit and leave

 

[Roober]

If you try to communicate and the woman is bad at it or shuts down, thats a big sign that she isn't ready to grow up = next!

 

[soulforge]

If you try to communicate and the woman is bad at it or shuts down, thats a big sign that she isn't ready to grow up = next!

The main problem is.. when I communicate with her, she never excepts any responsibility.. she is hell bent on blaming me, and the words sorry NEVER comes to her mouth..

So we end up arguing.. I'm a pretty hot headed guy, in the sense, when she makes irrational accusations or shifts all blame on me, i feel like i need to put her straight or speak up for myself.. or call her out for disrespect.

Communication with her, was truly a difficult task

 

[dude99]

The last couple of weeks I was serious about asking her to leave.. she told me this morning she wanted to go home, I told her straight that is totally fine, i don't want her here any longer either..

She wanted a long goodbye BS so told her no need for that, pack your chit and leave

Hopefully "pack your chit and leave," are the last words you ever speak to her. That is all she deserves.

 

[soulforge]

Hopefully "pack your chit and leave," are the last words you ever speak to her. That is all she deserves.

Well i have blocked her on whatsapp, got a couple of text off her today.. just ignored them, didn't even bother reading

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Well i have blocked her on whatsapp, got a couple of text off her today.. just ignored them, didn't even bother reading

Man sorry you have to go through this. I'm sure this time you mean it. It really was a waste and a drain on your life.

 

[bigneil]

Quiet contest. Go!

 

[devilkingx2]

relevant:

http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/re...s/news-story/d083bb012258f6ba74bfa83184c7a9c3

 

[soulforge]

Man sorry you have to go through this. I'm sure this time you mean it. It really was a waste and a drain on your life.

Thanks man.. just finding it difficult, was so used to her being around, its difficult to be on your own again..

Just can't keep forgiving someone who disrespects me.. and not even a apology from

If she at least apologised afterwards i would feel some what better about things, or feel there was some kind of hope.. but she infact makes things worse by denying any responsibility..

This builds resentment in me for her.. how can i live like this

 

[soulforge]

Man sorry you have to go through this. I'm sure this time you mean it. It really was a waste and a drain on your life.

Thanks man.. here is the thing, every couple or LTR has occasional arguments.. but when it comes to disrespect, I can't let her get away with that..

If i call her out on it, she does not apologise and does her best to make it my fault.. this builds so much resentment in me for her.

Sometimes a simple apology just makes things right.. also she moved from her town to be with me.

Now she claims she misses her home town and her old routine.. so i told her to go back.. why move in with me in the first place..

I can't commit to someone or build a future with a girl, who could just move back out at any time.

 

[soulforge]

Is there any point in reading her text messages? Or just delete and try to move on.

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

Dumbass...it is simple. Are you happy when you are with this woman. No.
Kick her to the kerb.

Everyone on this forum thinks you can do better. Go and be better. Go and do better.

Yes you are doing the right thing by getting rid of her.