Mr.Freestyler19
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^^^^^^^^^^
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How to deal with shy girls?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Your_Royal_Flyness
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Be more specific. Some women put up the front that they are shy when they truly aren't. If she IS shy, then it sorta depends why. Generally the best way to warm a shy girl up to you is to build comfort with her. The easiest way to do this is to get her to talk about herself--specifically her likes and interests. "How" and "Why" questions typically work best, i.e.Mr.Freestyler19 said:
How did you get into drawing?
Why did you choose that major?
How did that make you feel? ,etc etc
Another important thing is for YOU to act comfortable and laid back. Seeing your calm and collected demeanor will subconsciously make her more comfortable around you. Carry yourself like a man and you'll be okay.
Mr.Freestyler19
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she dont talk much bcause she has only one year in the US so shes not comfortable speaking in English but i dont care about tht so should i tell her tht i dont care if she messes up bcause i can understand tht English is not her first language
The Decay of Meaning
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If she's from Mexico or something you could just joke about how her English is better than your Spanish.
Your_Royal_Flyness
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Exactly! In fact, have her teach you how to speak in her language and throw in that joke. This EASILY breaks down barriers. Every time I meet a "foreign chick", I have her teach me her native tongue. Which usually leads to more "tonguing." Lol. I can now say a few phrases in Russian, Filipino, Amharic, Farsi, Kreyole (French), Hindi and a few others.The Decay of Meaning said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Kailex
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Don't confuse "shy" with "uncomfortable speaking the language".
Yes, she COULD be both, but that is NOT always the case. My ex was the LEAST shy person in the world, but because she couldn't fully grasp the English language, she came across to a LOT of English-Speaking people as SHY.
Like others have said, just build up a comfort level. And one way to do that is to try to learn her language. It'll give you two a good rapport as you try to teach other.
What nationality is this girl? What's her first language?
Yes, she COULD be both, but that is NOT always the case. My ex was the LEAST shy person in the world, but because she couldn't fully grasp the English language, she came across to a LOT of English-Speaking people as SHY.
Like others have said, just build up a comfort level. And one way to do that is to try to learn her language. It'll give you two a good rapport as you try to teach other.
What nationality is this girl? What's her first language?