How to deal with shy girls?

[Mr.Freestyler19]

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[Your_Royal_Flyness]

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Be more specific. Some women put up the front that they are shy when they truly aren't. If she IS shy, then it sorta depends why. Generally the best way to warm a shy girl up to you is to build comfort with her. The easiest way to do this is to get her to talk about herself--specifically her likes and interests. "How" and "Why" questions typically work best, i.e.

How did you get into drawing?
Why did you choose that major?
How did that make you feel? ,etc etc

Another important thing is for YOU to act comfortable and laid back. Seeing your calm and collected demeanor will subconsciously make her more comfortable around you. Carry yourself like a man and you'll be okay.

 

[Mr.Freestyler19]

she dont talk much bcause she has only one year in the US so shes not comfortable speaking in English but i dont care about tht so should i tell her tht i dont care if she messes up bcause i can understand tht English is not her first language

 

[The Decay of Meaning]

If she's from Mexico or something you could just joke about how her English is better than your Spanish.

 

[Your_Royal_Flyness]

If she's from Mexico or something you could just joke about how her English is better than your Spanish.

Exactly! In fact, have her teach you how to speak in her language and throw in that joke. This EASILY breaks down barriers. Every time I meet a "foreign chick", I have her teach me her native tongue. Which usually leads to more "tonguing." Lol. I can now say a few phrases in Russian, Filipino, Amharic, Farsi, Kreyole (French), Hindi and a few others.

 

[Allurre]

If she's shy and can't speak good english,
progressively build her comfort level up towards you.

1. Offer to teach some english.
2. Let the non verbal flirt begin.
3. JUST HAVE FUN.

 

[Kailex]

Don't confuse "shy" with "uncomfortable speaking the language".
Yes, she COULD be both, but that is NOT always the case. My ex was the LEAST shy person in the world, but because she couldn't fully grasp the English language, she came across to a LOT of English-Speaking people as SHY.

Like others have said, just build up a comfort level. And one way to do that is to try to learn her language. It'll give you two a good rapport as you try to teach other.

What nationality is this girl? What's her first language?

 

[schttrj]

If she is SHY...

1. she may be a prude that needs to be liberated.
2. she might want a really soft handling with her.

Elicit information and mold your game according to it.

- Ron.