Mr.Freestyler19
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How to deal with shy girls?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Your_Royal_Flyness
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Be more specific. Some women put up the front that they are shy when they truly aren't. If she IS shy, then it sorta depends why. Generally the best way to warm a shy girl up to you is to build comfort with her. The easiest way to do this is to get her to talk about herself--specifically her likes and interests. "How" and "Why" questions typically work best, i.e.Mr.Freestyler19 said:
How did you get into drawing?
Why did you choose that major?
How did that make you feel? ,etc etc
Another important thing is for YOU to act comfortable and laid back. Seeing your calm and collected demeanor will subconsciously make her more comfortable around you. Carry yourself like a man and you'll be okay.
Mr.Freestyler19
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she dont talk much bcause she has only one year in the US so shes not comfortable speaking in English but i dont care about tht so should i tell her tht i dont care if she messes up bcause i can understand tht English is not her first language
The Decay of Meaning
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If she's from Mexico or something you could just joke about how her English is better than your Spanish.
Your_Royal_Flyness
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Exactly! In fact, have her teach you how to speak in her language and throw in that joke. This EASILY breaks down barriers. Every time I meet a "foreign chick", I have her teach me her native tongue. Which usually leads to more "tonguing." Lol. I can now say a few phrases in Russian, Filipino, Amharic, Farsi, Kreyole (French), Hindi and a few others.The Decay of Meaning said:
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Kailex
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Don't confuse "shy" with "uncomfortable speaking the language".
Yes, she COULD be both, but that is NOT always the case. My ex was the LEAST shy person in the world, but because she couldn't fully grasp the English language, she came across to a LOT of English-Speaking people as SHY.
Like others have said, just build up a comfort level. And one way to do that is to try to learn her language. It'll give you two a good rapport as you try to teach other.
What nationality is this girl? What's her first language?
Yes, she COULD be both, but that is NOT always the case. My ex was the LEAST shy person in the world, but because she couldn't fully grasp the English language, she came across to a LOT of English-Speaking people as SHY.
Like others have said, just build up a comfort level. And one way to do that is to try to learn her language. It'll give you two a good rapport as you try to teach other.
What nationality is this girl? What's her first language?