Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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how to deal with questions about 'boring' past

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Hi,

I've run into a problem a couple of times lately. I used to be a bit of a studious and straight-arrow, basically 'boring' kind of guy, until seeing the results of gradual changes in the past yr only.

I have the desire and time to go out and have fun and be more social etc, but am not sure how to react when trying out new activities with new cool ppl. Ppl ask me what I've been upto in my life, and about my past gfs, and crazy things I did etc., and I don't really HAVE MANY/ANY:). I have to keep coming up with tired cliches like "No well. I've just been really busy all these yrs, just concentrating on my career blah blah.." But there is a major buzzkill.

So my question is how do you get around this issue? Thanks....
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Hmm, good question. Most people have to LIE about their lives in order to blend in in these scenes you venture out on the town to meet chicks at. Most do not go paratrooping every week, sticking their heads into a lion's mouth, go scuba diving down into the Titanic, or go dune-buggying at the Egyptian Pyramids, or have seen a Real dinosaur in the African rainforests, served in the Iraq war helped pull Saddam out of the spider-hole whatever. I think that there is a balance you must strike between myth, and reality. Recount your stories of the past with more flare than you Actually remember it as. Take detours, tangents, and drop-offs to wherever your mind tells you to go, as, long as she's listening. Paint a picture. Shoot the arrow through the apple on her nodding head. Pin the tail on the donkey. You must construct whatever you're going to say, Not to impress, but to entertain; thereby, putting away your focus on the black and white facts of your accountable past, and jumping into the field of hissing insects, rolling thunder and wind-blown lilies in a threatening sun-lit sky-splitter mountains.
 

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Start making fun memories now!
 

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great

PMaker awesome advice...tks!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Boost up advice is great, but what about specific steps/things to say?

Latinoman, I am 27.
 
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