"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

how to deal with questions about 'boring' past

H

handsomehunk

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 7, 2001
Messages
60
Reaction score
0
Location
usa
Hi,

I've run into a problem a couple of times lately. I used to be a bit of a studious and straight-arrow, basically 'boring' kind of guy, until seeing the results of gradual changes in the past yr only.

I have the desire and time to go out and have fun and be more social etc, but am not sure how to react when trying out new activities with new cool ppl. Ppl ask me what I've been upto in my life, and about my past gfs, and crazy things I did etc., and I don't really HAVE MANY/ANY:). I have to keep coming up with tired cliches like "No well. I've just been really busy all these yrs, just concentrating on my career blah blah.." But there is a major buzzkill.

So my question is how do you get around this issue? Thanks....
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

Read more...

Poonani Maker

Poonani Maker

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 29, 2007
Messages
4,392
Reaction score
927
Hmm, good question. Most people have to LIE about their lives in order to blend in in these scenes you venture out on the town to meet chicks at. Most do not go paratrooping every week, sticking their heads into a lion's mouth, go scuba diving down into the Titanic, or go dune-buggying at the Egyptian Pyramids, or have seen a Real dinosaur in the African rainforests, served in the Iraq war helped pull Saddam out of the spider-hole whatever. I think that there is a balance you must strike between myth, and reality. Recount your stories of the past with more flare than you Actually remember it as. Take detours, tangents, and drop-offs to wherever your mind tells you to go, as, long as she's listening. Paint a picture. Shoot the arrow through the apple on her nodding head. Pin the tail on the donkey. You must construct whatever you're going to say, Not to impress, but to entertain; thereby, putting away your focus on the black and white facts of your accountable past, and jumping into the field of hissing insects, rolling thunder and wind-blown lilies in a threatening sun-lit sky-splitter mountains.
 
T

tick37

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jan 18, 2008
Messages
477
Reaction score
5
Start making fun memories now!
 
H

handsomehunk

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 7, 2001
Messages
60
Reaction score
0
Location
usa
great

PMaker awesome advice...tks!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

H

handsomehunk

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 7, 2001
Messages
60
Reaction score
0
Location
usa
Boost up advice is great, but what about specific steps/things to say?

Latinoman, I am 27.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top