timmylivingalie
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What should the boyfriend do here?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZT6j_kCX2E8
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZT6j_kCX2E8
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Thats probaly what I would do. Just leave her standing there.HalfAddict said:Go find another chick.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Uh did you watch the video, dude WAS IN A SUPERMARKET. Women are abundant, with near a thousand posts I figure you would be able to recognize this.Strelok said:yeah sure go find an other chick as if you were at the supermarket and your pizza brand is over so u pick an other one.
Good ideaHalfAddict said:Uh did you watch the video, dude WAS IN A SUPERMARKET. Women are abundant, with near a thousand posts I figure you would be able to recognize this.
But in all seriousness, if that chick was his girlfriend when dude walks up, interrupts conversation and asks to introduce himself just laugh at him like he's a joke. I would have leaned into her ear and said he wants to introduce himself to you but I am not going to let him, maybe rest my hand on her waist and I box out the other guy by showing him my back. Then just act like he is not there.
After this any action he makes just puts him in a weaker position because he is either yelling around you or interrupting again, meaning he looks desperate and rude. If you are as close as you should be at this point to your girl she will most likely be put off as well.
She should be following your lead so if you deny this dude she probably will too.
But that is just my opinion.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
A man who's clearly spent time in the trenches of social interactions.synergy1 said:Never had this happen, but if something like this was brewing, i'd pray that my energy level is high. The key is to sort of take over the conversation, and get them talking to you instead. If it becomes obvious to the women that the dude is only there to talk to them, that actually hurts their chances. Likewise when I approach groups, I go strait to the MM and talk to everyone I am not interested in. Sometimes indifference, but with the right charisma, you can get them buying your drinks and even trying to help you get w/ the target.
If the aforementioned situation happened to me, and I wasn't making on the women, than I would attempt to bring the energy level of the conversation to my level. The dude getting blown out here is orbiting his chick and has zero desire to socialize. Many times I have been the guy who approaches and (without even knowing it), steals the interest of the chick that is the target of another dude who is simply orbiting. Thus the best advice to glean from this experience is: Do not orbit, have a high energy level, and engage strangers to show you are social.