timmylivingalie
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- May 9, 2011
- Messages
- 226
- Reaction score
- 1
What should the boyfriend do here?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZT6j_kCX2E8
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZT6j_kCX2E8
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Thats probaly what I would do. Just leave her standing there.HalfAddict said:Go find another chick.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Uh did you watch the video, dude WAS IN A SUPERMARKET. Women are abundant, with near a thousand posts I figure you would be able to recognize this.Strelok said:yeah sure go find an other chick as if you were at the supermarket and your pizza brand is over so u pick an other one.
Good ideaHalfAddict said:Uh did you watch the video, dude WAS IN A SUPERMARKET. Women are abundant, with near a thousand posts I figure you would be able to recognize this.
But in all seriousness, if that chick was his girlfriend when dude walks up, interrupts conversation and asks to introduce himself just laugh at him like he's a joke. I would have leaned into her ear and said he wants to introduce himself to you but I am not going to let him, maybe rest my hand on her waist and I box out the other guy by showing him my back. Then just act like he is not there.
After this any action he makes just puts him in a weaker position because he is either yelling around you or interrupting again, meaning he looks desperate and rude. If you are as close as you should be at this point to your girl she will most likely be put off as well.
She should be following your lead so if you deny this dude she probably will too.
But that is just my opinion.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
A man who's clearly spent time in the trenches of social interactions.synergy1 said:Never had this happen, but if something like this was brewing, i'd pray that my energy level is high. The key is to sort of take over the conversation, and get them talking to you instead. If it becomes obvious to the women that the dude is only there to talk to them, that actually hurts their chances. Likewise when I approach groups, I go strait to the MM and talk to everyone I am not interested in. Sometimes indifference, but with the right charisma, you can get them buying your drinks and even trying to help you get w/ the target.
If the aforementioned situation happened to me, and I wasn't making on the women, than I would attempt to bring the energy level of the conversation to my level. The dude getting blown out here is orbiting his chick and has zero desire to socialize. Many times I have been the guy who approaches and (without even knowing it), steals the interest of the chick that is the target of another dude who is simply orbiting. Thus the best advice to glean from this experience is: Do not orbit, have a high energy level, and engage strangers to show you are social.