timmylivingalie
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What should the boyfriend do here?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZT6j_kCX2E8
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZT6j_kCX2E8
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Thats probaly what I would do. Just leave her standing there.HalfAddict said:Go find another chick.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Uh did you watch the video, dude WAS IN A SUPERMARKET. Women are abundant, with near a thousand posts I figure you would be able to recognize this.Strelok said:yeah sure go find an other chick as if you were at the supermarket and your pizza brand is over so u pick an other one.
Good ideaHalfAddict said:Uh did you watch the video, dude WAS IN A SUPERMARKET. Women are abundant, with near a thousand posts I figure you would be able to recognize this.
But in all seriousness, if that chick was his girlfriend when dude walks up, interrupts conversation and asks to introduce himself just laugh at him like he's a joke. I would have leaned into her ear and said he wants to introduce himself to you but I am not going to let him, maybe rest my hand on her waist and I box out the other guy by showing him my back. Then just act like he is not there.
After this any action he makes just puts him in a weaker position because he is either yelling around you or interrupting again, meaning he looks desperate and rude. If you are as close as you should be at this point to your girl she will most likely be put off as well.
She should be following your lead so if you deny this dude she probably will too.
But that is just my opinion.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
A man who's clearly spent time in the trenches of social interactions.synergy1 said:Never had this happen, but if something like this was brewing, i'd pray that my energy level is high. The key is to sort of take over the conversation, and get them talking to you instead. If it becomes obvious to the women that the dude is only there to talk to them, that actually hurts their chances. Likewise when I approach groups, I go strait to the MM and talk to everyone I am not interested in. Sometimes indifference, but with the right charisma, you can get them buying your drinks and even trying to help you get w/ the target.
If the aforementioned situation happened to me, and I wasn't making on the women, than I would attempt to bring the energy level of the conversation to my level. The dude getting blown out here is orbiting his chick and has zero desire to socialize. Many times I have been the guy who approaches and (without even knowing it), steals the interest of the chick that is the target of another dude who is simply orbiting. Thus the best advice to glean from this experience is: Do not orbit, have a high energy level, and engage strangers to show you are social.