ElCubanito13
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I got a simple question...How do you build rapport????
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
How to build rapport???
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
Communication. That's it. Just be a good conversationalist and you're good to go. If you're wondering how to do that, there's this book that I recommend to everyone called "How To Make Great Conversation And Small Talk" by Sean McPheat. I've read a lot of seduction guides and advice given in these forums and they fail to cover the most important part of a relationship with not just a woman, but with anyone, and that is communication. This book literally changed me overnight.
ElCubanito13
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ahhh, but what about falling into the friend zone??War Against Betaism said:Communication. That's it. Just be a good conversationalist and you're good to go. If you're wondering how to do that, there's this book that I recommend to everyone called "How To Make Great Conversation And Small Talk" by Sean McPheat. I've read a lot of seduction guides and advice given in these forums and they fail to cover the most important part of a relationship with not just a woman, but with anyone, and that is communication. This book literally changed me overnight.
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
That's what the other half of your game is for, but if you want to build good rapport, communication is the answer.ElCubanito13 said:ahhh, but what about falling into the friend zone??
eaglez1177
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Betaism hit the nail on the head
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
fertileTurtle
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Communication: Simple enough. Thanks WAB. Examples?
pjtheman
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fertileTurtle said:Communication: Simple enough. Thanks WAB. Examples?
there are no examples that can be given here my friend, comunication is something you learn in the field not from the screen. if you were to learn how to have the most interessting conversation on earth but went out and found you were to nervous to do it what was the point of learning when you should've bbeen experiancing