"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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how to be heartless

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in what ways are you suppose to be heartless? I often hear that you shouldn't care about what people say. You should act as if nothing phases you and don't let girls in on how much you care but where do ou draw the line? how far is too far? which point is jerk point
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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katatonia

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You can go to great lengths to be a jerk, the difference is in emotion. Act uncaring and you will win, if you are driven by emotions (ie. anger) in your *******ness you will fail.
 

DJ_Tekinkel

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Not sure what you mean "how to be heartless" but ill just attack it with some knowledge.

Just realise that emotion and logic do not mix, listen to your logic first

How many times have you done something cause you "FELT you had to do it" but you knew it wasnt going to work or was bad. And it did end up bad.

Anyway on a different note

You shouldn't care what people say, because who cares it's their opinion. you are BETTER than that to let yourself waste YOUR energy on THEIR opinions which do NOTHING to you unless you let them.

basically be confident, strong and truly believe in yourself, and you will not be bothered by others, and make the life you truly want for youself.

On another note
Perhaps you meant "how to be strong emotionally"?
 

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Basically be strong, cause a strong person doesn't need anyone else! A strong person lets people into his life of HIS choosing.

And for girls, just never say I love you. Ever. =/ it just ticks a checkbox in their head that should never be ticked. IMO
 

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DJ_Tekinkel said:
Basically be strong, cause a strong person doesn't need anyone else! A strong person lets people into his life of HIS choosing.

And for girls, just never say I love you. Ever. =/ it just ticks a checkbox in their head that should never be ticked. IMO
This is true!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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GQzSwagStarFamous said:
in what ways are you suppose to be heartless? I often hear that you shouldn't care about what people say. You should act as if nothing phases you and don't let girls in on how much you care but where do ou draw the line? how far is too far? which point is jerk point
You're not coming across as a heartless jerk, you're just not negatively impacted by the world around you.

You should not care emotionally about what people say to you. It gives them power over you.

I'm new at this site, so I'm not sure where "external frame of reference" vs "internal frame of reference" would be but you want the latter to be successful as a man in general. If you have an external frame of reference you'll be at the mercy of the woman as well as others around you.
 
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