"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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in what ways are you suppose to be heartless? I often hear that you shouldn't care about what people say. You should act as if nothing phases you and don't let girls in on how much you care but where do ou draw the line? how far is too far? which point is jerk point
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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katatonia

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You can go to great lengths to be a jerk, the difference is in emotion. Act uncaring and you will win, if you are driven by emotions (ie. anger) in your *******ness you will fail.
 

DJ_Tekinkel

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Not sure what you mean "how to be heartless" but ill just attack it with some knowledge.

Just realise that emotion and logic do not mix, listen to your logic first

How many times have you done something cause you "FELT you had to do it" but you knew it wasnt going to work or was bad. And it did end up bad.

Anyway on a different note

You shouldn't care what people say, because who cares it's their opinion. you are BETTER than that to let yourself waste YOUR energy on THEIR opinions which do NOTHING to you unless you let them.

basically be confident, strong and truly believe in yourself, and you will not be bothered by others, and make the life you truly want for youself.

On another note
Perhaps you meant "how to be strong emotionally"?
 

DJ_Tekinkel

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Basically be strong, cause a strong person doesn't need anyone else! A strong person lets people into his life of HIS choosing.

And for girls, just never say I love you. Ever. =/ it just ticks a checkbox in their head that should never be ticked. IMO
 

Blown5.0

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DJ_Tekinkel said:
Basically be strong, cause a strong person doesn't need anyone else! A strong person lets people into his life of HIS choosing.

And for girls, just never say I love you. Ever. =/ it just ticks a checkbox in their head that should never be ticked. IMO
This is true!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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ThatMysteriousGuy

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GQzSwagStarFamous said:
in what ways are you suppose to be heartless? I often hear that you shouldn't care about what people say. You should act as if nothing phases you and don't let girls in on how much you care but where do ou draw the line? how far is too far? which point is jerk point
You're not coming across as a heartless jerk, you're just not negatively impacted by the world around you.

You should not care emotionally about what people say to you. It gives them power over you.

I'm new at this site, so I'm not sure where "external frame of reference" vs "internal frame of reference" would be but you want the latter to be successful as a man in general. If you have an external frame of reference you'll be at the mercy of the woman as well as others around you.
 
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